I can appreciate all that you are saying. I used the word normal because this is a homebrew forum, not a pro brew forum.
If anything, I'd say you're completely backwards on your assessment. It is actually
because we are homebrewers that we don't have a normal. If we were talking about professional brewing, there would be more of a "normal" for things like this than there is in the homebrew world.
Yes, most homebrewers use 5-6 ft lines and carb 10psi or under. Because that is easy and pretty much works without issue.
Whaaat?
So, so untrue. Maybe more correct to say "most noob homebrewers". Because otherwise that statement is so off base. The only people running that short of lines on that low of pressure have to have their serving temp around 32°F, which I'm fairly confident is much colder than most of us serve.
So where are you drawing your conclusions from? How many homebrewers do you know and regularly interact with? I see you've been a member here for several years yet your activity is pretty low - perhaps if you spend more time perusing these boards you'd have a better grasp on reality in this regard. I'm pretty sure at least 60% of the people here will tell you they use lines longer than 6ft. It's probably more like 90%, but hey let's not get carried away.
If you want to go above these levels at serving temps, you are going to need some hardware help, either flow-gates or flow-control faucets.
Or, you know, longer lines.
I use the term new math because of this idea that "if I put 50ft of hose on the keg I can pour anything"...
And that is (mostly) completely true! As I said earlier, I have one tap with a 33ft line on it for the rare occasion I need to serve soda at say 30psi. And guess what, it pours my 10psi beers just fine, and my 15psi beers, and my 18psi beers, and my 30psi soda! So yes, if you put a longer than necessary length of tubing on a tap, you can pour anything up to the carbonation level that that specific line length allows.
Just sharing my 12+ years of kegging with a 18-20 psi 'set and forget' system. I tried the long line approach. I actually put 25-30 feet of 3/16ths beer line on a hefeweizen once. Guess what? It still shot out like a seltzer bottle! The only way to make high psi serving pressures work in a homebrew fridge is some form of hardware that slows the beer down. Long lines in a fridge do not slow the beer enough.
I've never heard this claim from anyone besides you. So what's the more logical answer here.....that science and the laws of physics cease to exist in your kitchen, or that your one-time-trial of putting longer lines on had some other defect that you didn't account for? Are you telling me that grits cook faster in your kitchen than anywhere else on Earth?!?
Not trying to be rude (but I know that's how it's coming off), but this really perturbs me, being so insistent that science and math and waaaaaay more than "12+ years experience" from hundreds of thousands of homebrewers is somehow wrong, and proven so by your one non-scientific conjecture based on your own lackluster experience. The fact that you used the term "new math" pretty much sums it up.