I've heard that as long as the wort is turning itself over, you've got a strong enough boil. There was a Brewing TV (RIP) video a while back of Jon Palmer brewing a batch of beer, and the shots of the boil didn't look to be what I would call "very vigorous". It was strong enough that the wort was turning over in the kettle, but it wasn't so strong that there was any danger of it leaping out of the kettle.
I have also heard about the poor head retention/formation from an overly strong boil, but I have no idea how hard you'd actually have to boil to end up hurting the final product. I find that if, like I said above, the wort is turning itself over well and you're getting a good hot break, you end up with a beer that produces foam just fine. I've also found that skimming break material off the top as its coming to a boil hurts foam in the final beer. I used to skim and always had wimpy foam. I stopped skimming and let the hot break stay in the worth during the boil and now my beer foam is just fine every time.