So the wife and I were on vacation in Saint Martin recently and we had a talk. Her mood has been off for quite a while now and I basically had a fair idea of what was up. She told me she wants to divorce and to have a fresh start. We've been married for 10 years this August but have been together (living together) for 15 years. As much as it hurts I understand how she feels and everything is completely amicable. It'll be a clean divorce (no assets, no children, no joint bank account, etc).
Anyhow, I've been wanting to move to Hawaii for many years now. We've been there 8 times. I will be saving money for the next 7 months before moving, was planning on also either borrowing from or cashing out my 401K to buy a small condo or something (I know the arguments against doing that but I have no choice). The thing is, I've never relocated anywhere but from Brooklyn NY to Bayonne NJ so I was wondering if anyone has advice about how to do something like this when the destination is so far away. I know I will need to take a trip before hand to look at properties and settle on buying one, how long would I need to do this? Would a week be sufficient? Two weeks? Outside of mailing address change would I need to do anything with the local state government (like register my residence or just arrive and start living life cause it's still the USA?). - probably a really stupid question as I didn't need to do anything when I moved to Jersey.
I have already decided, based off the vast majority of advice I've received so far, to sell off pretty much all my stuff and only keep important things that matter the world to me to make the move as light as possible. Eventually I'll be selling off all my brewing equipment and the vast majority of my music gear - I need to get my life together first and can start my brewing again later.
Anyhow, if anyone can lend any advice I would be extremely grateful!
Rev.
Anyhow, I've been wanting to move to Hawaii for many years now. We've been there 8 times. I will be saving money for the next 7 months before moving, was planning on also either borrowing from or cashing out my 401K to buy a small condo or something (I know the arguments against doing that but I have no choice). The thing is, I've never relocated anywhere but from Brooklyn NY to Bayonne NJ so I was wondering if anyone has advice about how to do something like this when the destination is so far away. I know I will need to take a trip before hand to look at properties and settle on buying one, how long would I need to do this? Would a week be sufficient? Two weeks? Outside of mailing address change would I need to do anything with the local state government (like register my residence or just arrive and start living life cause it's still the USA?). - probably a really stupid question as I didn't need to do anything when I moved to Jersey.
I have already decided, based off the vast majority of advice I've received so far, to sell off pretty much all my stuff and only keep important things that matter the world to me to make the move as light as possible. Eventually I'll be selling off all my brewing equipment and the vast majority of my music gear - I need to get my life together first and can start my brewing again later.
Anyhow, if anyone can lend any advice I would be extremely grateful!
Rev.