I finally sat down and did a side by side. Here's a quick comparison
The real thing is lighter in color and not overly carbonated. I had the mind set of most belgian beers and had the co2 too high.
Their aroma is significantly more hoppy and has virtually no Belgian qualities to it. Mine you get a slight sense of the yeast.
The XX Bitter starts off with a quick flash of sweet that gives way to high levels of hoppiness then to the significant bitterness. There is a slight belgian yeast quality but its barely there.
Mine starts off sweeter with more malt character. While drank on its own I would consider mine hoppy but it pales in comparison to the De Ranke product. Mine has is slightly less bitter in the aftertaste. The belgian yeast flavor also shines through more. Mine also has more mouth feel. I had also overshot my OG and underestimated my FG so I am 1% higher in alcohol, which gives a quick flash of alcohol presence.
While I was at it, it took a refractometer reading. Assuming their stated 6.2% abv is correct, their SG is 1.056 and FG is 1.008 for a AA of 86%.
With this in mind, I am going to lower my OG, up the percentage of sugar to 10%, double the amount of 2 minute hops and up the IBU's to 70. Hopefully my yeast culturing is successful, but if not, I would still stick with the 3522. Fermented at the cold end of its range keeps the esters in check, and more hops will certainly help mask its flavor contribution.
As for the graininess, I have read that De Ranke uses Castle for their malt. Looking it the Castle website shows that they produce both 2 row and 6 row pilsner malt. I am wondering if De Ranke uses 6 row to get the graininess. The only problem is that I can't find a distributor in the states that lists the 6 row pils.