There's really no topping this statement. That's basically the only thing that can be said except that I am sorry to hear your bad news.
Thanks...
That sucks man, I'm sorry...I went through it a while back. I had a son with my ex then we broke up. It was awful, but my son and I got through it. Just love your kids..That's all you can do. There is life after this. After my Hell, I met my wife now and we've been together for 22 excellent years and had another son.. I sometimes think, Why the hell didn't I meet her before all that misery.. I must have slaughtered a village in my past life...
Take care!
I know this is going to be harder than we think, especially when all the financial stuff has to be figured out. But I'm lucky in that I've got a great job as an engineer, so even with the pain of spousal support neither of us will be destitute (and she does have
some income).
And we are both on board that loving the kids comes first... And if we fight too much, we're failing in that regard. So we have to do it right.
Sorry to hear your bad news, Staying busy helps somewhat!
I know... Right now I don't want to do ANYTHING. I want to crawl in a hole. But I realize that's a horrific, stupid, and
dangerous thing to do. (Especially for people like us who have gallons and gallons of beer available!)
But in our marriage, I've long been the one to try to be the over-helper when it comes to the kids, and so I've long denied myself time to get out and do things. A lot of this had to do with her depression in years past where she didn't want to do things on her own, and so I felt guilty taking time away from the family for myself. This was compounded by the fact that I travel frequently for work, so I did get "some" outlet, but business trips are no substitute for time with friends. I look at this as an opportunity. I'm going to do the things I want to do.
This morning, that was taking my son for a hike. Tomorrow morning, that's going for one myself. Thursday, it'll be going to hang out with the homebrew club guys at a brewery (which I probably wouldn't have attended before). Next Sunday, I'm hosting a club brewday at home. And as weird as it might be, we had already planned a "date night" at a comedy club for next weekend. Might as well still go to it and get a few laughs in...
So sorry to hear. I have friends whose lives significantly improved after a divorce. There can be light at the end of the tunnel, but it is never fun.
I think it's going to be better for me. Well it sounds conceited to say this, I honesty fear that she's going to regret losing me. I've been the "dutiful husband/father" who put everyone's needs ahead of mine. I see this as an opportunity to get my own life again.