I'm glad to have the friendly folks at AHS as my LHBS these days, but I can definitely empathize with the frustrations having lived elsewhere. Lot's of places it seemed like I'd walk in and they'd condescend and treat me like I had no idea wtf I was talking about for no other reason I could come up with besides my being a woman. Then some self aggrandizing dudely dude would walk in pretending he knew what was up, grab a can of 10 year old malt extract, and the staff would be right there at his beckon call. I started making a habit of getting in and out quick as I could, but always wondered about missing out on the LHBS "experience".
Actually, come to think of it, it still happens at bike shops, with car mechanics and at the home depot... But I'm glad to have the fellows at AHS now, they're always great.