Young Love advice needed

[JonM]

What? You're just going to give up with the new girl? You took a WAG and think girl #1 interfered? You don't know that and so f-ing what if she did? Don't just throw in the towel here.

 

[Psylocide]

What? You're just going to give up with the new girl? You took a WAG and think girl #1 interfered? You don't know that and so f-ing what if she did? Don't just throw in the towel here.

Agreed.

Go back and ask her if something happened... lay it all on the line. Be all, "I really thought we were hitting it off, let's go get weird."

 

[firerat]

This has got to be one of the most hard core cases of friend zone I've ever seen.

 

[SupervisingChildren]

So girl #1 shoots you down, you go after her friend, #2, hit it off and things fizzle out. Why not approach girl #1 and find out what's up? Seems like #1 is c-blocking you, which is messed up if so. I'd agree with the rest of the guys. At least maybe she could give you insight on what transpired...

 

[CreamyGoodness]

I agree. Give it a week or two though. Pretend you barely noticed because time got away from you.

 

[flars]

Definitely continue pursuing Girl 2. Win her over. Girl 1 would make your life miserable no matter what happens.

 

[JonM]

Here it is: don't confront girl #1 like you would a clockblocking dude. That won't end well (Hell hath no fury and such). Instead, just be honest with girl #2. "I really liked spending time with you and I'd love to see you again. Can we get together Saturday?" If she shoots you down, then politely ask for an explanation and maybe even specifically ask if it's because of girl #1. If it is (and if it looks like there's no chance of redemption with girl #2,) THEN go to girl #1 and say "********* me again and I'll c%#tpunch you so hard your grandchildren will have miscarriages." *mic drop*

ETA: Disclaimer - not actually advocating violence.

 

[Psylocide]

Here it is: don't confront girl #1 like you would a clockblocking dude. That won't end well (Hell hath no fury and such). Instead, just be honest with girl #2. "I really liked spending time with you and I'd love to see you again. Can we get together Saturday?" If she shoots you down, then politely ask for an explanation and maybe even specifically ask if it's because of girl #1. If it is (and if it looks like there's no chance of redemption with girl #2,) THEN go to girl #1 and say "********* me again and I'll c%#tpunch you so hard your grandchildren will have miscarriages." *mic drop*

Verbatim.

Do it.



Alternatively, I've found the D.E.N.N.I.S. system to be quite effective.

 

[drainbamage]

Sounds like Girl #1 has some issues, especially if this is something she makes a habit of doing.

Still, if you and Girl #2 hit it off, don't let her go that easily. Ask her straight up why things got weird after starting out so well. If Girl #1 indeed got to her, maybe ask #1 what her deal is. Does she still have a thing for you? Does she think you aren't good enough for her friend? Is she just one of those people who thrives on drama?

 

[JonM]

I had a kind of/sort of situation like this when I was younger. If girl #1 is poisoning the well, recruit some other female friends to run a counteroffensive. I had two female friends and they went to a girl I liked and they (totally honestly and without any prompting from me) told her "I bet you heard some nasty rumors about JonM and I bet the rumors came from so-and-so. They're not true, so-and-so is a lying %*!@, JonM is a sweetheart and you should give him a chance." It worked.

 

[normonster]

Maybe ask your Ma what she did with the set of C&B's you should have guiding you through this.

 

[ingchr1]

Too much drama, I say go out and find girl#3....then#4......then#5....and so on.....

 

[SharonaZamboni]

Too much drama, I say go out and find girl#3....then#4......then#5....and so on.....

This. If the girls are good friends with each other, no guy stands a chance coming between them. You might be in for a while, but eventually you'll get the boot. Chicks before d..., sisters 4ever, etc.

 

[agrazela]

Maybe ask your Ma what she did with the set of C&B's you should have guiding you through this.

C&B's?

Charm & Brains?

 

[normonster]

C&B's?



Charm & Brains?

Lower.

 

[day_trippr]

Lol!

 

[Ridire]

I haven't read this whole thread, and I'll be disappointed if I'm the first to say this, but...menage a trois?

And, yes, I know I'm a dick.

 

[BreezyBrew]

My thoughts. #1 Girl is into you and she is not admitting it. That's the reason for the *********. Since you chose to go after #2, I'm surprised to see #1 is still talking to you. That's just how women are. Sure you can confront her, but that's not a good situation to be in. It will just make things awkward. Sounds like all you can do now is back off. Women love mysterious guys.

 

[Tin4]

Verbatim.

Do it.



Alternatively, I've found the D.E.N.N.I.S. system to be quite effective.

I prefer MAC.

Saves time.