Hey everyone, I know this is a bit of a soppy post but id really appreciate some help on the matter.
Basically, last September, I met a girl in college (sixth form in the UK) and developed feelings for her over time. They were requited, but not as much as I'd have liked so we both essentially remained single even though I was a bit head over heels for her.
I wasn't treat very well by her but we remain awkward friends a year later. Now its all blown over, but theres still a fair amount of water under the bridge for us, im in a sticky situation.
She has a friend who is absolutely gorgeous, long legs, cute smile, the works. We even have the same taste as each other from what ive gathered and ive heard it through the grapevine that she finds me attractive.
I really want to get talking to her, but im feeling like I'm putting myself at risk of being turned down or embarrassed since she is friends with the first girl I mentioned.
Could anyone help me out with this? I'm not just trying to have sex with her either, I think we'd really hit it off. Do I go there or leave it as is.
Thanks chaps.
"Hey, listen. I know we've been doing the casual thing for a little while and it's been an absolute blast. But, I've been thinking lately about pursuing something a little bit more serious. I think we have a lot of fun and I'd like to try and step it up another level."
(Option 1: girl1 turns you down)
"*Laugh* Huh, I get it, thank you for being honest with me. So how about ... "insert stuff you normally talk about here..."
If she goes quiet and awkward, tell her "Look, I'm sorry I said anything. But there is no such thing as awkward situations, only people make things awkward, can we forget it happened?" <--- Gives her the upper hand, which, if she's a good chick, she'll return to normal.
Then go get the other girl. If the first girl comes up in conversation just be honest and say that "you were just looking for two different things."
If she's really into you, she'll pick you over her friend and brush her off as a ****.
(Option 2: girl1 says "yeah, I can do a serious thing")
Say "I was really hoping you'd say that," bring her in close and kiss her. Say that it feels way better with that out of the way.