Why "We're Pregnant!" bugs me so much

[kombat]

The woman is definitely taking the brunt of the effects, but the man also has to do his part and take off her shoes, rub her feet (or whichever body part she needs), deal with all the running-rampant emotions, go to the appts to hear all the cool stuff, etc. Saying that the man gets off scott free is (imo) just not true.

You could say the exact same thing about a woman who is undergoing chemotherapy for breast cancer (the husband has to pick up the slack in the household, do the driving, be supportive, etc.), but nobody says "We have cancer."

I agree with the OP, I find it obnoxious.

 

[cheezydemon3]

You could say the exact same thing about a woman who is undergoing chemotherapy for breast cancer (the husband has to pick up the slack in the household, do the driving, be supportive, etc.), but nobody says "We have cancer."

I agree with the OP, I find it obnoxious.

Yeah, because the husband may never get cancer.

Creamy (or any dad to be) presumeably IS going to get (ie: HAVE) a baby.

 

[kombat]

Yeah, because the husband may never get cancer.

Creamy (or any dad to be) presumeably IS going to get (ie: HAVE) a baby.

Right. I'm not objecting to the expression, "We're having/going to have a baby," I'm objecting to "We're pregnant."

The husband is obviously not pregnant. Drawing the analogy with cancer highlights the absurdity of the phrase. How do you respond to that?

Husband: "Guess what? We're pregnant!"
Me: "Uhm, congrats. When are you... she ... due?"
Outcome = awkward

Husband: "Bad news, we've got cancer."
Me: "Wow, that sucks dude. But which one of you ACTUALLY has cancer?"
Outcome = awkward

 

[fosaisu]

Creamy (or any dad to be) presumeably IS going to get (ie: HAVE) a baby.

Right. This is why the dad-to-be can simply say "we're having a baby!" Conveys the exact same message, avoids any fear (in my opinion somewhat silly) that the dad-to-be is trying to "distance" himself from the situation, and has the benefit of being true.

Put another way, would it make any sense for the dad-to-be to say "I'm pregnant"?

 

[johngaltsmotor]

So for people who like saying "we're pregnant", when SWMBO has PMS do you say "we have PMS" and that makes it okay for you to be a PITA to your buddies?

 

[drainbamage]

So you aren't getting sympathy pains and/or cravings?

I heard that phrase on TV recently and it made me cringe as well, for the same reason I guess. The guy might have an active role in causing the pregnancy (most of the time) and in raising the child (most of the time...hopefully), but yeah, *we* are not pregnant, *she* is.


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[BBQB]

I just read all the posts in this thread. I will never get that time back


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[paperairplane]

I hate people on wheel of fortune: "I'm married to my wife, Jane"

Who else would you be married to? Idiot.

Also, why do I have to ask for unsweetened tea. Tea with sugar is sweetened or sweet tea. Tea without sugar is just tea.

 

[drainbamage]

I just read all the posts in this thread. I will never get that time back


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It was right there in the title. Didn't you know what you were walking into?


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[Dan]

CG congrats on your pregnancy!

I had three kids, no my wife had three kids. We raised them together.. not toatally true. Big D after 12 years.. anyway I digress.

Truly happy for you and your wife. I'd never heard the term "we're pregnant" 25 years ago. My wife was pregnant and I was a terrified dad to be.

BTW. Pedicures are awesome. I've never had the kahonas to get my toenails painted however.

 

[Kittyfeet]

So for people who like saying "we're pregnant", when SWMBO has PMS do you say "we have PMS" and that makes it okay for you to be a PITA to your buddies?

Double dog dare you to try! Report back here with the outcome.

 

[Kittyfeet]

I think it ultimately is unimportant semantics but I agree that "we're pregnant" sounds terrible.

My curiosity got the best of me, so after a quick scour of the entire internet, I found One article supporting the 'we' from some mommy blog. And the comment section (which far exceeds the article length) is full of people just as annoyed as the folk in this thread.

NOONE tell CG that his opinion matches that of everyone else on the planet. It may crush his blue toed soul (sole?)

 

[BBQB]

It was right there in the title. Didn't you know what you were walking into?


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I did, and I still read the thread. I have only me to blame


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[CreamyGoodness]

CG congrats on your pregnancy!

I had three kids, no my wife had three kids. We raised them together.. not toatally true. Big D after 12 years.. anyway I digress.

Truly happy for you and your wife. I'd never heard the term "we're pregnant" 25 years ago. My wife was pregnant and I was a terrified dad to be.

BTW. Pedicures are awesome. I've never had the kahonas to get my toenails painted however.

You were in the military and dealt with a bunch of hard-knock life lessons and a little nailpolish was your limit??

 

[cheezydemon3]

I hate people on wheel of fortune: "I'm married to my wife, Jane"

Who else would you be married to? Idiot.

Also, why do I have to ask for unsweetened tea. Tea with sugar is sweetened or sweet tea. Tea without sugar is just tea.

Hot water heater...........

 

[Melana]

Congrats on your pregnancy!

Best part of a pregnant wife? You get a designated driver for 9 months... Go ahead.... Ask me how I know!


Now where's that peanut butter ice cream? And the pretzels?

 

[jhoneycutt]

Congrats on your pregnancy!

Best part of a pregnant wife? You get a designated driver for 9 months... Go ahead.... Ask me how I know!


Now where's that peanut butter ice cream? And the pretzels?

Haha story ive been told is my mom craved beer and ice cream while pregnant with me. Makes me wander sometimes.

 

[paulster2626]

Wait till you actually have the damn thing and all anyone asks is when you're having another.

Like, **** off. None of your ******* business, that's when.


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[Melana]

Or... a year or so after you have the first one and you're holding someone elses baby you get the 'ooohhh looks like you want another'.

 

[user 144271]

Sounds to me like your pregnancy has really effected your hormones and the slightest things are setting you off.


Tell me the truth you had peanutbutter pickle sandwich for lunch didn't you?

 

[ChugachBrewing]

Due in may.

I say "WE made a baby"

I haven't been craving anything except wild beer, which I have to wait until SHE delivers so WE can share it. She is craving lambic and acidic foods.

 

[drainbamage]

Wait till you actually have the damn thing and all anyone asks is when you're having another.

Like, **** off. None of your ******* business, that's when.


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Just start giving uncomfortably TMI answers:

"Well, right now seems as good a time as any to start trying. Hey honey, care to join me in the bathroom for a few minutes?"

 

[paulster2626]

Just start giving uncomfortably TMI answers:

"Well, right now seems as good a time as any to start trying. Hey honey, care to join me in the bathroom for a few minutes?"

My answers vary, from informing the person that we're on a big anal kick right now, to the guilt-inducing "we've acutally been trying for a long time now and it's kind of putting a strain on our marriage"

What the hell happened where it's suddenly a bad thing to have an only child? Kid seems to have enough fun already without needing "someone to play with" 24/7. Why can't things just be good BOTH ways - with siblings, without, doesn't matter, it's all good?

This world is stupid.

 

[jonmohno]

You could say the exact same thing about a woman who is undergoing chemotherapy for breast cancer (the husband has to pick up the slack in the household, do the driving, be supportive, etc.), but nobody says "We have cancer."

I agree with the OP, I find it obnoxious.

Kind of insensitive and maybe not the best choice of example. But when you are in a marriage or a good long solid relationship with one you love, it should be we and not me. If that happened to my wife, part of me would die too and I cant imagine the terrible grief of it being her and not me or even vice versa. All said I just don't like the term We are pregnant, myself and quite frankly when I hear someone say it it kind of sounds gay. No offense but is there going to be a conclusion to this already?

 

[KayaBrew]

My wife is due May 31st, when is yours? My first child too, and a girl. She had two boys who are now 13 and 11 so we are happy,so is her side of the family who has no girls yet. My wife calls ours a kickboxer or says she is doing zumba. Us men would be ******* if we were pregnant,thats all I got to say about that.

I doubt we would be total *******...have you seen the picture (X-Ray) going around the internets this week of the guy with a chainsaw imbedded in his neck? Definitely not a p*ssy

 

[USAFSooner]

It's "she's pregnant" and "we're expecting".


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