It's not just detrimental to the grain bed, but also the pump. Throttling flow to a centrifugal pump on the inlet side can cause the pump to cavitate, which creates lots of small bubbles. These bubbles are abrasive to the impeller, and other internal parts, and prolonged cavitation will damage the pump. Doesn't matter whether the flow is restricted by the grain bed, or an input side valve, the effect is the same. So what you need to do is throttle the pump on the outlet side - to a flow rate below the grain bed limited flow rate.
Pumping faster than the grain bed will allow can also cause air ingress into the volume below the grain bed, in which case the pump will be sucking air. This can also damage the pump.
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