Poll: Do you want to know your SO's "History"?

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

Man, I am with you on that. I always get into those conversations with girlfriends, and always walk away hurt. I don't know why I expect/want my girlfriend to be pure/untainted and not have slept with a whole ton of people, but I have been a bad, bad, bad boy for a long time, and have never dated a girl who has been with more people than me...even after I leave a lot of things out.

but, I have tried to not have those conversations, and it eats me up just as bad.

I assume that I am just really messed up in the head, and it is something I need to deal with.

I've had plenty of relationships full of secrets and lies.... Big surprise they didn't work out. Being afraid of or hiding from your past is a waste of energy. You have to find some pride in where you've been and what you've done. Without all of that experience, you wouldn't be who you are. My SWMBO was a dorky late bloomer with very little "history". I started at a young age; all over the place with alcohol, drugs, sex, etc., etc. So when the history conversation started up early on in our relationship, I was scared, but I was also totally sure that I wanted to tell her everything. That day was a little rattling for her, but in the end, we know each other intimately now.... that intimacy never would have happened if it weren't for our willingness to share our pasts.

I agree with you two. If you are the kind of person affected by this issue, then it's best to get it done and out of the way early. Feelings hurt by the facts heal over easy enough. Doubts linger and fester.

 

[bluefoxicy]

sexual history?

Why not? Good bedside conversation.

(yes, the only girl I ever seriously pursued used to talk to me about all the stuff she's done and stuff, it was fine, didn't bother me, actually some of it was kind of hot o.o;; )

 

[98EXL]

sexual history?

Why not? Good bedside conversation.

(yes, the only girl I ever seriously pursued used to talk to me about all the stuff she's done and stuff, it was fine, didn't bother me, actually some of it was kind of hot o.o;; )

having sex in the Inner Harbor is not hot...but in an alley by the block, now that's cool

 

[bluefoxicy]

having sex in the Inner Harbor is not hot...but in an alley by the block, now that's cool

She was a California girl, not local. (It's complicated, don't ask.)

Also things didn't work out, I have no idea how to deal with chicks, or people. Also doesn't help that I don't like relationships in general and never really put much thought into it until then....

Anyway I'm single now. Forever. Yay right?

 

[98EXL]

She was a California girl, not local. (It's complicated, don't ask.)

Also things didn't work out, I have no idea how to deal with chicks, or people. Also doesn't help that I don't like relationships in general and never really put much thought into it until then....

Anyway I'm single now. Forever. Yay right?

go to Fed Hill, there are tons of hotties over there

 

[Soulive]

go to Fed Hill, there are tons of hotties over there

Yes there are. Lots of eye candy in those bars, including Jenna Bush...

 

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

Certainly you cannot make a statement like that & expect nobody to ask what you did. Don't you remember the poor sap who got a bunch of salt poured in his beer? We're not giving up on him either...

Feel free to make stuff up on my behalf. Others have started already.

My lips are sealed. I have grown too accustomed to the anonymity of having a dead family and living in another continent to blow my cover now!

 

[98EXL]

Yes there are. Lots of eye candy in those bars, including Jenna Bush...

giggity giggity giggity giggity giggity giggity giggity giggity giggity

 

[uglygoat]

i've no need to know the sordid history of the mother of my children, and i've heard that is indeed sordid.

point is, knowing the history has not changed the relationship in one way or another, as it didn't factor into the equation in the first place.

 

[MikeFlynn74]

36? In a row?

 

[CBBaron]

Voted don't care but I have known my wife since high school. We didn't date until our junior year of college but there wasn't much that could be hidden between the two of us. So while I don't care I did know.
Craig

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Hmmm.

Lets for a minute suppose that you find yourself 80 years old clearing out the attic of your recently deceased SWMBO after spending a blissful (for the most part, I mean really) 52 years married only to find a small video collection of her when she was 16-18 years old and experimenting with a short lived career hardcore porn.

Would that change your perception of her at that point?

If yes, then maybe it is best that you "flesh" out these sort of things now because it would be a sad waste of 52 years with a good companion to let it all go at that point.

 

[DeathBrewer]

In a row? :cross:

lol...don't suck any **** on the way to the parking lot!!

 

[bluefoxicy]

36? In a row?

......... that's ... impressive....

.... are you sure she's "only" human?

 

[flyangler18]

......... that's ... impressive....

.... are you sure she's "only" human?

bluefoxicy- you've clearly missed the reference.

I'm not terribly concerned about SWMBO's history- because I know it. It wasn't an issue then, won't be an issue in the future.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=94wGndbOIPk[/youtube]

 

[Damonic]

I had to know. And it wasn't as bad as what I had prepped myself for. My number was still higher which was very comforting in a hypocritical twisted way. Eh...

 

[janzik]

I've always refused to acknowledge my significant others' history's as I feel it would never have made me happy afterwords, regardless of the 'damage'. Last night I got into a discussion with my swmbo about her history, and lucky for me it's not bad at all, and I'm slightly happy that I had an open mind about it.

What's everyone else's take on this matter?

What ever the number, double it (Number of dudes, and number of inches per dude).

Ever wonder about that thing she may do? You know, the one with her.. you know.. You probably weren't the first.

 

[the_bird]

bluefoxicy- you've clearly missed the reference.

It's not his fault he missed the reference. He tried to rent "Clerks" a few weeks back, and they didn't believe he was old enough to rent it.

 

[bluefoxicy]

It's not his fault he missed the reference. He tried to rent "Clerks" a few weeks back, and they didn't believe he was old enough to rent it.

hahahaha...

Two girls followed me home the other day (no, nothing happened) and thought I was 17 and living with mommy. I eventually wound up showing them my driver's license.

I know where the hotter one lives, have her phone number, and my FWB is amused by the whole thing and keeps telling me to go after her... (when she's not around only though)

 

[jmulligan]

I was a "late blooming dork" (I believe it was called?), so I had very little sexual history to speak of when HWMO and I began dating. He was more insistent than I about talking through past relationships. He still offers more information than I ever did/do about former flames. He's really big on total honesty, so it's just his way. I am a super-freak, cut-your-nuts-off jealous kind of woman, so it's not usually something I want to hear.

Either way, the numbers were uber-low for both of us, so none of it was a big deal.

EDIT: guess I won't try to convince him to help me brew now, since it won't even get me the results I wanted!

 

[bluefoxicy]

I was a "late blooming dork" (I believe it was called?)

Want to start a club?

 

[the_bird]

EDIT: guess I won't try to convince him to help me brew now, since it won't even get me the results I wanted!

Hey, YMMV. I suggest you get him to help you brew, but make sure to take both pre-boil and post-boil measurements!

 

[jmulligan]

Want to start a club?

I'm not only the President, I'm also a client! Let's go, you can be VP.

Hey, YMMV. I suggest you get him to help you brew, but make sure to take both pre-boil and post-boil measurements!

Done! Let's hope I get good efficiency.

 

[user 574]

My wife and I shared that info. Wasn't too hard though since we married young and grew up in the same town. We still keep an open relationship. She even knows that I want to try two chicks at the same time

Or at least be in the same room.

 

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

Hey, YMMV. I suggest you get him to help you brew, but make sure to take both pre-boil and post-boil measurements!

Sorry, nurse, but when you said you wanted to prick my boil, I misunderstood and panicked a little.

 

[bluefoxicy]

She even knows that I want to try two chicks at the same time

I'm that scary weird dude that always says he'll be in on it if there's 2 guys involved. MFM DP is hot. It's funny how many girls just aren't into taking 2 guys, but guys are all about the 2 girls thing......

...... unless he gets off her and tries to get on me. o_o; 'scuse me sir I don't believe I ever agreed to do anal....

 

[98EXL]

36? In a row?

I thought it was 37

"Hey, try not to suck any dick on the way to the parking lot" LOL

 

[Homercidal]

Well, I've only ever been with my wife, and I got married around 21 or so. She had been with her previous boyfriend, and that's about it. He was a very controlling @hole, but she couldn't see it at the time. Once she got away from him, it became very obvious.

Of course, she had ME to set her straight not too long after, so that helped. We've been very happily married for about 16 years now. I remember cruising to her high school to pick her up from class. My theory is to get them young before someone else has a chance to teach them bad habits (before you get to)!

 

[JMD87]

I have to admit I'm pretty suprised by the poll results. I thought for sure there would be more people who didn't want to know, and much less that didn't care.

Very interesting 'experiment'

 

[98EXL]

I have to admit I'm pretty suprised by the poll results. I thought for sure there would be more people who didn't want to know, and much less that didn't care.

Very interesting 'experiment'

but the majority of people don't care?