OK, ya gotta brother....

[Copperhed]

Stole your identity and bought a 4-wheeler, a dirt bike to the tune of ten grand.
I signed off for it like a ******* so he wouldn't go to prison for seven years. He's nowhere to be found, I do however have a promissary note and the aforementioned vehicles are mine.
My heart is forever broken.
What would you do?

Copper

A) Hunt him down and kick his ass.

B) Call him out at family holiday gatherings, and kick his ass.

C) Send an email to God Knows Where saying "I'm gonna kick yer ass"

D)
Kick his ass.


Copper

 

[Orpheus]

Now that sucks the big one. I'd kick my brother's ass and then disown him and never speak to him again.

 

[The Pol]

All of the above...

 

[sause]

Not really helping here but I found this knid of funny, take it for what you will. When I got done reading your post copper, Bohemian Rapsody was playing and it came to "Mama, just killed a man, put a gun against head, pulled the trigger now his dead." Just thought I would throw that in there. But seri, kick his ass and then kick his ass again.

 

[Petey]

Kick his ass at the family gathering then have the children and elderly join in, just for some additional shame.

 

[c.n.budz]

Track him down, then run him over with the 4-wheeler



Petey, love the avatar!!

 

[Pumbaa]

figure out how to get him in prison then when he gets done with his 5 years of anal rapage, kick his ass

 

[Yooper]

Well, you have the vehicles now, right? I say, do you want the vehicles? (I might, given you have the place to ride them!) If no, sell those babies and get the cash and try to pay off the loans.

Then, forgive. Yeah, that sucks and I don't mean you have to be his friend anymore. But forgiveness is a gift for YOU and not for him, and so forgive him and move on.

Then, not only are you free from anxiety and care concerning him, others are going to wonder why you're so ok. Then, you are the bigger person and forgiving him was just a small thing in becomming a bigger (better) person.

 

[Monk]

Then, forgive. Yeah, that sucks and I don't mean you have to be his friend anymore. But forgiveness is a gift for YOU and not for him, and so forgive him and move on.

Seriously. He already screwed you. Feeling pissed and frustrated isn't going to fix anything. Feeling ****ty is for people who did wrong, shouldn't be required of the victim, too, eh?

 

[Fingers]

Sell the quad for what you can get to cut your loss. When you run into your brother again let him know how you felt about what he did to you and what you did for him. He owes you for the balance of what he took you for. He gets nothing until the debt is paid.

Tell him he gets only one get out jail free card. Mean it.

 

[david_42]

All of the above & if you're lucky (like I was) he'll die young!

 

[LouT]

Don't seek him out, even to kick his ass, he'll just suck you in all over again and bring you down. Forgive, forget, and to some extent avoid.

 

[Copperhed]

I thought about all you guys had to say. I appreciate every post that was made. Sause and Pumbaa, you two even had me laughing at the situation. I sat outside at my bonfire and indulged until rather tipsy. This is my plan.

Yooper Chick and Monk, as hard as it will be, you are right to forgive and forget. But I'm not beyond tossing a tad of revenge in his direction. I plan to keep the Quadrunner cos its a lot of fun for me, but I have decided to sell the dirt bike he worships to the guy his ex cheated on him with.

TA-DA!
I feel better already!

Copper

 

[LouT]

Good one, Copper!

 

[rdwj]

...I have decided to sell the dirt bike he worships to the guy his ex cheated on him with.

Nice!!

I have a brother and sister-in-law that are on the outs with the rest of the family. It really does feel better to forgive. DON'T, however, forget. You have to make sure he doesn't get the opportunity to do something similar in the future.

 

[Proofman]

Copperhead, has he done anything like this before? It seems like a big jump from minor to this. He did this full well knowing that you would find out. He may not keep the toys, but he avoided the law. He used you. This is a terrible situation he has put you in. Not only because what he did to you, but it may change family dynamics. He will do something like it again. If not to you, to someone else (possibly family).

I don’t post much outside of the Extract and Beginners forums, but this is an area I have much experience in. My bother did something similarly to me and I refused to let it go. I was chastised by my family for not doing so. I gave in and he did not have to pay for what he did. He then stole form the others on the family (in one instance a whole lot). It ruined the dynamics of our family. If you choose to let it go his behavior will manifest itself again.

 

[todd_k]

I would have had him put in jail to begin with. Now, I would sell his purchases and then sue his ass.

 

[Yooper]

I plan to keep the Quadrunner cos its a lot of fun for me, but I have decided to sell the dirt bike he worships to the guy his ex cheated on him with.

TA-DA!
I feel better already!

Copper

That's brilliant!

 

[Orpheus]

I plan to keep the Quadrunner cos its a lot of fun for me, but I have decided to sell the dirt bike he worships to the guy his ex cheated on him with.

TA-DA!
I feel better already!

Copper

That's awesome! To pour a little salt into the wound, you could even send him a note to this effect: "Dear Brother, You really hurt me when you did such and such to me. I'm selling your dirt bike to Bob (insert name here.) Now he'll have ridden two things that belonged to you!"

 

[Ó Flannagáin]

I'd have to forgive as well, but there is no way I would help hime financially ever... and I wouldn't be able to trust him as far as a I could see him.

 

[Copperhed]

That's awesome! To pour a little salt into the wound, you could even send him a note to this effect: "Dear Brother, You really hurt me when you did such and such to me. I'm selling your dirt bike to Bob (insert name here.) Now he'll have ridden two things that belonged to you!"

BWA-HAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA (gasp, yelp, cough)
That is Priceless!
There is Serious History between this worthless Brother and "Bob". Its not the first time they have conducted "concurrent" affairs with women.

rdwj and Proofman: Yes he has always been a thorn in me clan's side, but never to this extent. After we stopped giving to him, he began taking. Drove me precious Grampy to an early grave with his shenanigans....The only reason I even found out about it was I ran my credit report in order to do some refinancing and found the purchases on a Yamaha credit card he and a female cohort applied for. Otherwise I would have never known until my credit was ruined. The jerk bought it at 21.9% interest rate too. I immediately rolled that over to a lifetime 2.99%.

I know I should have let him go to Priz, but me mum is elderly and not well, she doesn't even know about it. Plus I have 5 other older over-protective brothers that I have to somehow warn without causing some SERIOUS bloodshed.

One thing is for sure, I never post/write/divulge my SS# or true date of birth ANYWHERE. Day and month is OK, but the year spells potential trouble. They stay in a firesafe.

Todd_k, sueing is my only recourse at this point. When I signed the paperwork, I became liable, and no judge is gonna take what I did for him lightly. I know I'm a Numbnuts for doing it but was thinking of Mom.

Yooper Chick, I knew you would appreciate it!

Copper