Judgmental neighbors

[CreamyGoodness]

Problem is, telling this hump off will likely escalate the situation. Crazy people have more time and patience than you ever will when it comes to holding a grudge. I think the silent treatment might be your best bet here. If asked why, which you will be, a vague "there are consequences for our actions" should take her a while to figure out.

 

[Randar]

Wow! The audicity of this person. At dinner last night my mother-in-law brought up this neighbor and apparently this neighbor said something to her recently. This neighbor is a piece of work; an absolute piece of work.

The old biddies be crazy, yo!

Not really, but I always wanted to use that line. My empty nest old lady neighbor is a piece of work too. Called the village inspectors, planning commission, police, etc on us a few times. Minding our own business and not doing anything illegal allows us to simply ignore her and laugh it off. Went to vote last Tuesday and of course she is volunteering there... once one of the older men heard I was her neighbor (because she had some crackpot theory about pot-heads sitting between our fence rows and smoking pot and being loud) he said (once we were out of earshot), "You're Lois's neighbor? Quite the piece of work. God bless you!"

Sounds like she is harmless... and there are a lot worse things your neighbors can be, in the grand scheme of things.

 

[mtg4772]

Far from professional but this much closer to not having to listen to that battle axes crap.

 

[Homercidal]

Are there different cuts on one end than the other? Looks like the end on the bottom has 45s...

 

[mtg4772]

90s on all 4 corners. My harbor freight chop-saw won't cut good 45 angles. But yeah, I know what you're saying: it looks like a few have 45s.

 

[Homercidal]

I see it now. It's the heat marks from the welds I think.

I am going to be building mine own rig in a week or two I hope.

 

[mtg4772]

Post some pics?

 

[Homercidal]

I have a HF chop saw and it sux. Well, the saw doesn't seem terrible, but the stand it's on is junk. I didn't find that out until I decided to try clamping something down.

My plan is to take the measurements to work and build a new stand for the saw before I start on the brew rig. And that is after I do the tile in the kitchen, which God willing will be done either this weekend or early next week. Probably early next week because the wife usually likes to plan weekend fun things when I'm trying to get done the things she wants me to do!

 

[mtg4772]

I have a HF chop saw and it sux. Well, the saw doesn't seem terrible, but the stand it's on is junk. I didn't find that out until I decided to try clamping something down.

My plan is to take the measurements to work and build a new stand for the saw before I start on the brew rig. And that is after I do the tile in the kitchen, which God willing will be done either this weekend or early next week. Probably early next week because the wife usually likes to plan weekend fun things when I'm trying to get done the things she wants me to do!

My HF base sucks too. The dial to change angles really doesn't cut 45s, it is off a bit. So you believe you are cutting 45 but it's more like 47 or 50 degrees. We've tried to grind down the track the dial is on to get a true 45 degree cut, but that hasn't been successful. So my work around is 90 degree cuts.

I have a linoleum project to do. Brewing is in the forefront of my mind, but in actuality my wife's plans take a front seat. She can tell when she has laid too many of her plans on me because I get moody and short tempered. That's when she allows me to work in a brewday. I should be moody and short tempered more often.

 

[mtg4772]

I just spent a week in Hawai'i with my wife, her friend and my daughter. Before that was a 40 mile bike ride that my wife did. So I had to go with my mother-in-law and daughter to support that. Before that was a crab feast that her work paid for. All good things to do but not brewing.

Hawai'i was fun but 7 days with 3 females doing female activities, while my brain was on this brewrig, was a bit much for me. So I'm due for plenty of time to build this rig and a brew day. Then the balance of power will shift back in her direction. Even though I haven't fixed that leaking sprinkler, linoleum project nor gone on a hike or snow shoe trek.

 

[IXVolt]

Staple beer labels over all the holes in your fence

 

[mtg4772]

Staple beer labels over all the holes in your fence

You should have seen yesterday when I was cutting that steal. All the sparks were flying at the fence. A good portion of those shavings were flying through the fence crack. I was thinking, "come poke your eye through the fence now."

 

[Homercidal]

Se how beer affects your attitude! It's the devil!

 

[J8D]

Getting back to the OP, and if you consider yourself to be a Christian (church going or not) I would approach it one way. First, take 60 seconds and determine if her words carried any validity or weight. If there is a second of concern then adjust as necessary. Next I would forgive her and pray for her to be less judgmental of other people and for GOD to give her the strength to be a better person.

Non-Christian options include mailing her a Ziploc bag full of human feces, putting skunk piss cover scent on her engine block, posting craigslist adds with their phone number offering free stuff, enrolling her in Match.com or another dating site, or sending her several magazine subscription (bill me later option) for Swank, Chunky Butts, Loose, Cheri, and Milkin Mammas.

I just found out the church my family recently began attending has an Oktoberfest. Apparently there is another homebrewer who brings several kegs to the event. Amen.

 

[mtg4772]

Getting back to the OP, and if you consider yourself to be a Christian (church going or not) I would approach it one way. First, take 60 seconds and determine if her words carried any validity or weight. If there is a second of concern then adjust as necessary. Next I would forgive her and pray for her to be less judgmental of other people and for GOD to give her the strength to be a better person.

Non-Christian options include mailing her a Ziploc bag full of human feces, putting skunk piss cover scent on her engine block, posting craigslist adds with their phone number offering free stuff, enrolling her in Match.com or another dating site, or sending her several magazine subscription (bill me later option) for Swank, Chunky Butts, Loose, Cheri, and Milkin Mammas.

I just found out the church my family recently began attending has an Oktoberfest. Apparently there is another homebrewer who brings several kegs to the event. Amen.

It took a while for me to figure out OP (Original Post). No validity in her words. I'm a happy drunk, I don't get violent, I don't drink and drive, and I don't let it overshadow other aspects of my life. I try to share all this homebrew at family events, parties and small get togethers. I'm very proud to make my own and to take market share from Anheiser-Busch; even if it's a miniscule amount.

The woman is off; she had no business expressing her opinion to me. The only adjustment I'm making is to build the mobile brewrig so I can brew further away from her.

Acceptable non-Christians options: posting craigslist adds with their phone number offering free stuff, enrolling her in Match.com or another dating site.

But instead, I'll continue to ignore the ol' bag.

Congrats on your church's Octoberfest. Enjoyed responsibly this brew thing is really positive. I love it. I love every aspect of it. No way, no how will I adjust to fit into that ol' bag's set of values.

 

[mtg4772]

I will pray for her though.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

I say you hit her with a salmon, whilst not wearing pants.

 

[mtg4772]

Often I'm out on that side of the house. Cutting, grinding, sawing, building, polishing. It's always something with me. And, often she asks what I'm doing now. I hope she asks about the mobile brewrig because I'll tell her that I didn't like what she said to me about my daughter so I'm creating a venue for myself where I don't have to listen to her.

It would be very easy for me to tell her straight up.

Often she asks about my wife and what she is up to and I've replied, "You need to ask her directly." Then I'll follow up with my wife after I saw them talking and i'll ask my wife if the ol' bag asked and my wife says no. I can't wait for them to move. I want to buy the house they're in so I won't have new neighbors. My other neighbor is so cool. He is a small business start-up lawyer. He is so cool. He minds his own business and only asks for help when he needs to move something heavy.

 

[luke2080]

I'm planning on welding a 3 tier system on wheels so I can get as far away from that as possible.

Maybe I'm just a jerk, but I would 100% continue brewing right in front of her eyeball. And enjoy every second of it.

 

[Homercidal]

Seriously she doesn't sound that bad to me. I mean I were in your shoes having someone tell me to my face that I'm not raising my daughters properly wouldn't be that big a deal. She would be welcome to come over anytime and see that I actually do care about them and that they are in a loving household and really enjoy the time we spend together.

"Getting back at her" is only going to strengthen her opinion of people who make or drink beer.

Love thy neighbor, dude. It's wrote down somewhere.

 

[mtg4772]

Seriously she doesn't sound that bad to me. I mean I were in your shoes having someone tell me to my face that I'm not raising my daughters properly wouldn't be that big a deal. She would be welcome to come over anytime and see that I actually do care about them and that they are in a loving household and really enjoy the time we spend together.

"Getting back at her" is only going to strengthen her opinion of people who make or drink beer.

Love thy neighbor, dude. It's wrote down somewhere.

She could use some wall to wall counseling.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Have you met my evil twin brother Homercidal? He's my exact opposite in every way ;-). Let me guess, you still have all your hair, enjoy watching TV news, and your wife is brunette (SWMBO is blonde, so brunette I guess is opposite).

 

[mtg4772]

Have you met my evil twin brother Homercidal? He's my exact opposite in every way ;-). Let me guess, you still have all your hair, enjoy watching TV news, and your wife is brunette (SWMBO is blonde, so brunette I guess is opposite).

I'm bald. Inherited that trait from my grandfather on my mom's side. Better trait than cancer. I do enjoy watching TV news. That and NPR. Yeah, wife is brunette. She Who Must Be Obeyed: good one, very good one.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Actually I meant Homer is my opposite but seems you come pretty close too! LOL! I was busting Homer's chops for saying the opposite of what I would say, again.

 

[Homercidal]

Have you met my evil twin brother Homercidal? He's my exact opposite in every way ;-). Let me guess, you still have all your hair, enjoy watching TV news, and your wife is brunette (SWMBO is blonde, so brunette I guess is opposite).

There you go again. You know YOU are the EVIL twin! :cross:

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Oh... yeah... I forgot. But really think about it:

1) I brew Mead, you brew Beer
2) I live in the city, you live in the country
3) Your town has the word "city" in it... just to screw with me
4) Im a grumpy jerk, you arent
5) you have kids, I dont
6) you advocate the promotion of tranquility between neighbors, and I want to put a potato in mtg's neighbor's tailpipe. Yup, that tailpipe.

Thats just off the top of my head. I bet you even have a van dyke and laugh maniacally!

There you go again. You know YOU are the EVIL twin! :cross:

 

[Homercidal]

Dude, you're creeping me out!

Not currently rocking a Van Dyke (actually had to look that up. Maybe I need to spend more time at the hair salon...) but it does show up sometimes, depending on the missus's mood at that time.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Ha!

 

[IXVolt]

Lol

 

[BenjiBat]

If her kids live on the other side of the country then she hasn't and likely won't figure out what a Bword she is, you should act like your a little hard of hearing and thank her for the kind words next time, maybe she'll give up on getting thru to you and leave you be. In the mean time brew beer! Enjoy God's creation.
I hate how religious people use the end to justify their guilt driven, rude or controlling means, most of the bible thumpers in this world don't know 2 things about where the bible came from, who wrote it or decided what to take out of it or insert in it. But that's whole different subject.