Tell her the anticipation is much worse than the reality. It's almost "unreal" how the stress of everything was so much greater that the actual surgery/recovery.
She's going to be out for everything that matters. If she lets them get the iv in her then not to long after she's gonna be asleep. And then she's gonna be on pain meds and wake up and it's going to be over.
The worst part of it all was, and at times still is, the pain in the ribcage. But the good thing is they will give her meds for as long as she needs them- tell he not to be ashamed of keeping needing them even if it's a couple months.
But I have a feeling if she gave birth, then in reality the rib pain is probably nothing.
The biggest thing is to realize that it's not 10 years ago, let alone 50, the advances in this kind of surgery and even post surgical recovery of it have gone lightyears. Most of the horror stories that people think of with this stuff comes from back then.
The really cool thing is that if she has any issues because of the blockage now- shortness of breath, tiredness, etc, she's gonna feel amazing IMMEDIATELY after she recovers from the immediate after effects of the surgery. When she's off the oxygen and all the drugs from the surgery are out of her system, even despite the pain of her ribs, she's gonna notice an improvement.
It's a weird situation. It is I think, one of the few surgeries, where the recovery after is not about the symptom or issue, but simply recovering from the effect of the surgery.
Our life is almost immediately improved once the repair is done, it's just that the ribs and chest took a beating to get to that point. It's not like for example having knee surgery where there's still a painful recovery where you have to keep moving the joint, and rebuild up strength in the muscles before you begin to feel better, on top of healing from the surgery.
With the heart stuff all we really have to do is recover from the surgery. And for the most part that's just about letting our ribs heal up, through sitting on our asses and watching tv....
If she wants to talk to someone pm me, and I'll give you my facebook info and even my phone number.
If I could do it, she can!!!
