Is this insensitive?

[noodledancer77]

Dear Abbey,

My wife and I applied for jobs in Missouri as she is unhappy with her work in KY. Last week I talked to her about spending a good chunk of money on bulk hops to save money in the long run (we discuss most of our expenditures). She was receptive to the idea, but wanted me to wait to find out about the job interviews before spending the money in case we move in the near future. We found out today that one of us did not get an interview, so we'll stay put for a while. Should I go ahead and order the hops now, or give her a day or two to accept the news before slapping her with a debit receipt for $100 worth of hops.

 

[makomachine]

If you are asking the question you know the answer grasshoppa... You know deep down what needs to be done to keep you out of hot water with SWMBO!

 

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

Dear Insensitive of KY,

Yes, it would be insensitive. You could lessen the feeling of outrage she may have about ordering the hops by first telling her that you contracted the clap from a Puerto Rican ladyboy before telling her about the hops. This way you can fly your brewing expenses under her RADAR.

~Abbey

 

[Vance71975]

Dear Abbey,

My wife and I applied for jobs in Missouri as she is unhappy with her work in KY. Last week I talked to her about spending a good chunk of money on bulk hops to save money in the long run (we discuss most of our expenditures). She was receptive to the idea, but wanted me to wait to find out about the job interviews before spending the money in case we move in the near future. We found out today that one of us did not get an interview, so we'll stay put for a while. Should I go ahead and order the hops now, or give her a day or two to accept the news before slapping her with a debit receipt for $100 worth of hops.

Give it a Week and then ASK her about it before buying them, Discuss it, Go over the savings vs buying by the oz again, and come to a Joint Decision about it, in the long run it will be better for your marriage.

 

[noodledancer77]

Ur right. Thought it would be good fodder for humorous discussion. Gotta keep momma happy!

 

[unionrdr]

I did just that,keep her happy...bought her some ingredients to make her 2nd brew!

 

[lastsecondapex]

Go to farmhousebrewingsupply.com and buy your bulk hops 4oz at a time... Reduce that $100 to $50 and still have the same /oz cost as other bulk dealers...

And talk to her about it first!

Just my .02

 

[beerloaf]

Hey I ordered another fermenter, a 6 gal glass carboy that was posted on here from Amazon. It will be a surprise when she finds the giant box on the front porch. Things happen. What I learned is that it's easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

beerloaf

 

[wildwest450]

Tell her to go make you a sammich, while she's making said sammich, grap the laptop and order away.


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[makomachine]

I've given this much thought since my initial reply and have a different answer. Is it worth getting in hot water with SWMBO over hops? No. You need to either not order the hops, or bump that order up to a level of 'goodness' that it IS worth being in hot water over. A new HERMS setup with hops might work, as just one example.

 

[noodledancer77]

Good stuff folks. Making my monday (Tuesday) post holiday work hangover more enjoyable. I knew I could count on this bunch for some good laughs. Keep em commin! Wildwest, the sammich advice is the best yet!! lmfao

 

[shelly_belly]

Just buy them with your money and it's a non issue. You do do have mine, yours and ours accounts, right?

 

[MrMeans]

I agree with Shelly Belly. I have two checking accounts for myself. One for bills/life expenses and one for fun. My wife has the same. After all the bills are paid and we have met our saving expectations for the month I put my left overs into the fun account. This is my going out to the bar/buying homebrew crap/buying things I don't "need" money. t has stopped us from fighting about money and it may help you to just do what you want with part of he money you work for.

Or you could just tell her it would be like an early birthday/Christmas in July gift.


Also I can't say I blame you guys for wanting to get out of Mayfield. Have you guys thought about checking around Louisville/Lexington for jobs?

 

[noodledancer77]

Moving east takes us farther from family, so not much of an option. We used to live in Prestonsburg out east. We like it here. No quarrels with the area other than it being a dry county and a general weirdness about drinking alcohol. It's not that people don't drink, but a lot of it goes on behind closed doors. Strange to see for this Yankee. Would also be nice to get closer to an LHBS, but maybe that will happen in my life. I've even considered opening one. Not sure the market exists. I'll start with a club, then the store.