How to get drama queens to stop spam-bombing?

[unionrdr]

Even though it's a newsfeed, only friended people & news can post on it, so it's still mine in a sense. I just got tired of the two of them, particularly her, spam-bombing the page with worthless drivel. And it shows up on mine, shoving my stuff to the bottom immediately. And I mean as soon as I hit enter. Don't bogart the page!

 

[Psylocide]

Even though it's a newsfeed, only friended people & news can post on it, so it's still mine in a sense. I just got tired of the two of them, particularly her, spam-bombing the page with worthless drivel. And it shows up on mine, shoving my stuff to the bottom immediately. And I mean as soon as I hit enter. Don't bogart the page!

I think you still don't understand, or you do and you don't care.

Facebook is a public page, much like HBT.

Say the entirety of the Facebook newsfeed is 1 thread. ANY post on ANYONE's page that you are friends with will show up.

Anyone can post anything they want, and it will show up in that thread, regardless of how badly you want people to not miss your post... it's eventually going to go to a new page, and it'll be "back there."

The same thing happens on Facebook. If you don't like seeing her stuff, hide her comments.

However, my Facebook feed is worlds different than yours... if you posted your book Ad to your page, it would be on the bottom of my feed in no time as well, because all of my friends are posting too.

Do you understand that part? Your newsfeed is unique to you, based on how many friends you have and what they are posting.

They are not posting DIRECTLY to the newsfeed, they are posting on their own page, just like you.

I don't think I can explain what is going on any clearer.

What you did was go to her comment that she posted ON HER PAGE (and, showed up on your newsfeed), and told her to "shaddup with the BS." LOLOL, I'm still laughing imagining that exchange and can see why people are telling you that was probably in poor form.

That would be like someone telling you to stop posting your book spam on your page.

 

[unionrdr]

I do indeed understand what you're saying. But what I see isn't a public page in the stricter sense. That is to say, I don't see anyone & everyone on said page. Yeah, she's posting on hers & I see it, being friended. But I must insist that I may not have been very tactful, but everyone was thinking it I'm sure, I just said it. I can never understand why folks post totally irrelevant drivel, merely for the sake of posting? These people need to understand that their friends see all of this stuff, & what the result must be?

 

[GrogNerd]

So on your newsfeed, click on the little arrow on a post and pick your option...or unfriend, or hey...talk to the person like for reals. From what you describe, no one is spamming your page. It is not spam to be an over-poster on Facebook.
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follow the instructions here and VOILA! you won't see any more posts from that person, but you will remain friends

do that for every one of your FB friends and your own posts will forever remain at the top of your newsfeed

win-win

 

[unionrdr]

Well, I don't think I need to go that far. They just need to learn some restraint. Posting just for the sake of posting, & doing it whole blocks at a time is spam-bombing in my view. Seems like nothing more than that if I finally do post something, hit enter, & see it bombed out of sight immediately? It also makes me wonder about my relatives, if they stick up for my bro's ex's kids rather than me? Makes me wanna re-think summer trips???

 

[GrogNerd]

relativity, bro. depends on your point of view

if your friends are not friends with your spammer, your spam is staying at the top of their newsfeed, regardless of what you're seeing

 

[Auger]

They just need to learn some restraint. Posting just for the sake of posting, & doing it whole blocks at a time is spam-bombing in my view.

Going to someone else's FB page and telling them they post too much inane crap is like randomly wandering into a church and telling them they talk about religion too much. For most people, this is the whole point of facebook. As has been stated, you can hide posts from people to tailor what your news feed shows you. I've done that with lots of people that I like the option of keeping in touch with, but don't necessarily care to see what they post every day.

 

[HumulusHead]

i fixed that problem.

I deactivated my facebook account.

This reduced the drama in my life considerably!

+1

 

[Kee]

Much easier to stop the noise on Facebook than when working with idiots that want to dominate every conversation.

 

[SnakeRidge]

I'm on Myspace. Nice and quiet these days.

 

[JonM]

I'm on Myspace. Nice and quiet these days.

There's a sales pitch for ya: "Myspace. Your Family Is Not Here."

 

[Homercidal]

Union, I'm not sure you understand that facebook isn't the same page for everyone. Each person gets their own view of posts and the order they are in, and everything. When you post something on your page, and she "shares" is on hers, she's basically taking a copy and putting it on her page. Now she can do or say what she wants on her copy. It does nothing to your page at all.

Frankly, I'd just unfriend her. I doubt she'd ever notice you were gone.

 

[kombat]

If I finally do post something, hit enter, & see it bombed out of sight immediately?

Like the others, I'm still not sure you get it, Union. If you and I were friends on Facebook, but I were *not* friends with your relative, I'd see your post, and it would sit there at the top until one of my other friends posted something Facebook thinks I'm interested in. I wouldn't see your relative's "spam" at all. Because everyone's newsfeed is unique to them.

I'm not sure how to explain this. Your newsfeed isn't a "page" per se - it's dynamically-generated constantly by Facebook's algorithms. It takes content from your friends and lists it, applying rules about how close you are to those friends, how many of their things you've "Liked," how many other users you have in common, and so on. Facebook is just sampling content that your "Friends" are "sharing" or posting on their own walls. Nobody else sees the specific content that you see in your newsfeed. Just you. It's unique. You're seeing everything your relative posts because you have a lot of the same "friends." Facebook considers you very close, and gives priority to her posts.

That means you can tailor it. As others have already explained, you can "hide" posts from the offending relative without unfriending them. They'll never even know you did it. One of my close friends is a vegetarian, and 90% of everything she posts to her wall is PETA propaganda, photos and videos from slaughterhouses, abuse in puppy mills, and so on. I don't want to see that stuff, so I've hidden her posts. But she can still message me, she still sees my posts, and so on.

I think you're trying to kill a fly with a sledgehammer.

 

[unionrdr]

I like sledge hammers, matics, & other implements of destruction. Things have calmed down a bit with her.