I started a year ago July 1st. I started with the NB deluxe kit. It comes with everything that you need except a pot, ingredients and bottles.
That allows you to decide on what you eventually want for a pot. I started with a 20 qt aluminum stock pot, then a 30 qt aluminum turkey fryer pot until I scored two 10 gallon ss pots off Craigslist. I did the Irish Red Ale Kit first and the Patersbier as my second. I recommend either (or both).
I bought some bottles but you can ask your friends to save some for you. They need to be pry offs.
I have to look the mad brewer upgrade, but I am sure it is stuff you would get anyway.