Do your wives get mad?

[RandomBeerGuy]

My wife loves that I have a hobby like homebrewing. She is happy that I'm happy. She was not so happy when I kept buying more and more equipment to make my session's better. It all add's up totally understandable. Now she is happy again because I have all I need for the most part. Until I start building a 3 tier system muhahaha. Now she only complains that I want to brew every weekend. But hey, my excuse is all the moocher's/friends. Even though I consume 98% of all my brews.

 

[nukinfuts29]

As my brother often points out, we grew up so poor we had to jerk off to feed the cats. That kind of changes how you spend.

I'm not laughing at your childhood, but THAT is funny hahahaha

 

[rebelproud]

Mine bitched about it all the time. So, I got a new one. This one is hotter any way. And I have more beer now. Now, that is an upgrade!

 

[dienster]

Most I get is "I wish you spent as much effort on finishing the house projects as you do on your beer projects."

I'm getting this a lot lately... Just because it's going on 5 years to finish our daughter's dresser and 2.5 years to finish our backyard patio doesn't give her right to complain. Besides, I shouldn't be using power-tools drunk.

 

[J8D]

Actually the only real bitch my wife has is about the amount of time I spend on brewing, and kegging, and washing yeast, and making starters, and cleaning carboys, etc... I probably need to find a little more balance. Although I will never bitch about the fact that she wants to spend more time with me. I even try to be a prick but she still likes me. Perhaps after another 16 years she will appreciate when my ass in in the garage not bugging her.

 

[Homercidal]

I'm getting this a lot lately... Just because it's going on 5 years to finish our daughter's dresser and 2.5 years to finish our backyard patio doesn't give her right to complain. Besides, I shouldn't be using power-tools drunk.

Right on!

to procrastination!

 

[Coldies]

Between fishing rod wrapping, motorcycle building, gun collecting, and home brewing, Mine usually doesn't comment when I come home with a new trinket, as long as the "Honey Do" list is taken care of. With another kid on the way, I told her I need to build a new brew stand to replace my 2 vessel RIMS system before the kid comes. She rolled her eyes but knows its just one more thing to keep me home. About every other month I try and buy her something as well, shes gonna buy it anyways but makes her know I care.

 

[nukinfuts29]

Tools & drunk = bad

 

[Teromous]

Leaving brewing supplies in the kitchen, or using something of hers for whatever reason, are really the only sources of argument. If I buy something big, it usually only makes her mad because it's big...not because it costs a lot.

Another source of light contention, is when she gets the urge to cook something right in the middle of my sanitation or kegging session. She wants to use the sink, and I don't want my beer to smell like a seafood buffet...

Another thing that I've noticed, is that whenever there's an odd smell...it always seems to smell like beer to her...and not just beer, but sour beer (and I'm not making lambic). If the garbage disposal smells funky, it's because of beer. If the cat tracks funk through the house, it's beer. If her flowers are dead and the vase water smells like piss...it's beer. All this, because I had one fermenter explode and funk everything from the ceiling down...so every smell in my house is now attributed to my hobby.

 

[sheeshomatic]

My wives don't get mad, and neither do my girlfriends.

 

[daksin]

You guys are missing out. If your SWMBO isn't as good of a brewer as you are, you're doing it wrong.

 

[weirdboy]

Yeah we never combined our accounts. We have a joint account that we use for transferring money, but for the most part, meh. I pay all the bills, and all her money goes into savings for large purchases.

So, buying some brewing stuff every now and then is typically not a big deal, and I never make a big deal out of it when she buys yet another handbag or a tennis racket, or goes to the spa or whatever.

You guys are missing out. If your SWMBO isn't as good of a brewer as you are, you're doing it wrong.

I cannot even convince her to go to a single homebrew-related event. People in my homebrew club think I killed her and hid her body somewhere.

 

[nukinfuts29]

same with mine.

what she doesn't know is I have taken that woodchuck she loves so much, and made something 100x better. Soon as she has the baby and recovers i'm going to surprise her with it.

 

[Bithead]

I even ordered the one she requested.

You're in the clear. She told you to order it.

 

[justinakajuice]

Mine is supportive. More so than my huge gaping money pit/time suck restoration of a '69 Firebird anyway.

 

[TomHanx]

Yes, both about spending the money and she hates beer. Oh well. it right

 

[Chia]

my wife and always notify each other of what we are doing....unless it is something like trading for a different Harley, I rarely get any fuss, but then again, i never make a fuss or buy over what i know we can to afford.

 

[HerbieHowells]

I don't usually tell my SWMBO what I've bought or how much something costs. I play dumb unless she brings it up. I'd rather ask for forgiveness than permission. I wear the pants in the family!







When she's not home that is....

If a man ever tells you he is in charge of his home, ask him if he could unilaterally decide to pick out wallpaper for the guest room and install it while his wife was away without reasonably expecting to find his name on the missing person’s list shortly after her return.

 

[nukinfuts29]

I like not being in charge.

 

[Homercidal]

i like not being in charge.

+1

 

[theonetrueruss]

dude.. get a hold of your finances, create a budget, then let her talk to the hand as long as you are within your budget. How would it work out if you bitched next time she came home with a bag of clothes or whatever crap she buys? the key is to stick to an agreed upon budget and not worry about how the other spends their disposable money.

And if that doesn't work you got bigger problems to deal with and might need to focus on that for a while.

 

[year2beer]

Being in charge is overrated... we all know we love it when our ladies take care of us.

 

[thisgoestoeleven]

My "fiance" (not officially engaged because I can't afford a ring, but close enough) is the one who got me my brewing setup for our anniversary last year. She and I alternate paying for batches, she pitches ideas for the next brew, and she designs my labels. I'd say she's at peace with it

 

[Fennis]

Seriously, if you are even beginning to think in the back of your mind that buying something is going to upset your wife when she finds out, doesn't that maybe tell you that you should at least talk to her before you make the purchase? My wife and I are very open about our spending habits. We are kind of forced into it as I am paid monthly, so at the beginning of each month, I pay all our bills, and then we use the remaining amount and her biweekly pay to stick some into savings and live off the rest of it for the month. So, random purchases aren't exactly common, though both of us never really say anything to one another if we buy something for around $20 or less. Anything more and we usually talk about it before we buy, and budget for it if its somewhat expensive. Not being open about finances and spending is really asking for trouble. Its just not a smart move. If you have to ask yourself or you are second guessing, the answer is yes, the wife will be mad, so talk to her before you do it. A simple 2 minute conversation could save hours of fighting and frustration.

 

[nukinfuts29]

Seriously, if you are even beginning to think in the back of your mind that buying something is going to upset your wife when she finds out, doesn't that maybe tell you that you should at least talk to her before you make the purchase? My wife and I are very open about our spending habits. We are kind of forced into it as I am paid monthly, so at the beginning of each month, I pay all our bills, and then we use the remaining amount and her biweekly pay to stick some into savings and live off the rest of it for the month. So, random purchases aren't exactly common, though both of us never really say anything to one another if we buy something for around $20 or less. Anything more and we usually talk about it before we buy, and budget for it if its somewhat expensive. Not being open about finances and spending is really asking for trouble. Its just not a smart move. If you have to ask yourself or you are second guessing, the answer is yes, the wife will be mad, so talk to her before you do it. A simple 2 minute conversation could save hours of fighting and frustration.

Good advice.

 

[Monkey55]

Most I get is "I wish you spent as much effort on finishing the house projects as you do on your beer projects."

Or,

"Tell me again why you are etching circuit boards??"

I bet she doesn't even hear me when I start describing my latest homebrewing project anymore.

I'm getting this a lot lately... Just because it's going on 5 years to finish our daughter's dresser and 2.5 years to finish our backyard patio doesn't give her right to complain. Besides, I shouldn't be using power-tools drunk.

LOL... I'm glad to know that I'm not the only one.. I finally finished the patio after two years.. but not quite because there's a leak somewhere.. The office is going on four years.

At least I make time to brew and bottle.. and drink it..

E

 

[Bernie Brewer]

The female in my house doesn't complain a bit about what I spend or what I spend it on. She just wags her tail and hangs out in the garage with me when I brew.

 

[BBKing]

We have seperate bank accounts and the holidays are about the only time where she ever has a clue what amount I have in mine. We know what bills we are responsible for and as long as I pay mine, we're good to go.

Plus, if she can drop 400 bones at The Buckle I certainly refuse to feel guilty about ordering $100 worth of brewing supplies every 4 months or so.

Gotta tell ya buddy, nut up and deal with her. Bang out a compromise that works for both of you in the long run.

 

[Monkey55]

.....
Gotta tell ya buddy, nut up and deal with her. Bang out a compromise that works for both of you in the long run.

I'm with you on this.. Marriage is all about communication and compromise.

"Nut up..."

E

 

[WhineinAlbany]

Fortunately, I'm the homebrewer in the relationship. The husband loves that I started making beer. Now, he gets mad when carboys aren't full. He gets whatever xbox 360/ps3 game he wants, and I get whatever brew supplies I want.