Not sure what to tell you tld6008.
A test mash is always the best.
Measuring the DI pH of each grain and performing your own calculations is probably a close 2nd. (I think the Mash Made Easy spreadsheet allows entry of each grains DI pH.)
Using spreadsheets is like playing the lottery.
Most spreadsheet are based off of Kai Troester's work. It makes
an interesting read, if you desire to know how these spreadsheet arrive at their conclusions.
The large discrepancy is most probably caused by each spreadsheet using different calculations to determine the amount of alkalinity needing to be neutralized.
If your intent is to use all RO or Distilled then you'd need to enter 100 in the 'percent dilution water' box on the water adjustment tab.
Do you have 88% lactic selected in the other spreadsheets as well?
Just some suggestions, perhaps Martin or AJ would have additional advice.