I've only made 4 sours up to now, and all four are still in the carboys, anywhere from 1 month old to 7 months. I have a stout, and three Flanders, but haven't used fruit additions on any of them. I did consider getting some sour cherries for the Flanders, but opted not to, as I was happy with the flavor I got from sampling.
I have used fruit in other ales, mainly wheats or hefe. The one time I used a strawberry extract, I wasn't that satisfied with the flavor. I thought it tasted a bit too fake. I have since used only frozen fruits, strawberries and raspberries, when I make them. IMO, the fruit comes out with a more natural flavor. I also have a Magic Hat #9 clone that I just racked to secondary on 3# of apricot puree. First time using puree, so we'll see how it turns out.
For my sours, I've used only the Wyeast Roeselare blend. I've read that can provide a bit of a (cherry) fruitiness to the profile.