So I'm out having drinks with the swmbo. She casually mentions that maybe I should build a brew shed. It catches me off guard and I wasn't ready for the next line. I'd have to sell my motorcycle. Dammit. Decisions.
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put some money off to the side a little at a time. when you get enough, remind her of the brewshed and forget to mention the bike
wildwest450
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I have a bike and a brewshed, hmmm
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i do understand her point. I live in northern Mn and get very little use out of it, but dammit its my bike. It scares her, she will not ride it, and it doesnt help that I dropped it once last year. First time, but only been riding 3 years. Bunch of loose gravel heading up into my work parking lot. No damage and only tweaked my knee a little. I didn't tell her but a co-worker did and it made matters worse.
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Unless he dies on his toy when he's 32. Then he's just dumb.
My thought is this.... sell the bike, make swmbo happy. Get brew shed, and then it was her idea so she'll never be pissed about that.
It sounds as though you think you should sell the bike too.... Sometimes it isn't worth the hassle with the misses...
My 2 cents
snccoulter
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He who dies with the most Toy's still dies
Bernie Brewer
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You didn't say how long you and SWMBO have been together. Did you already have the bike when you met her? If so, keep it. You shouldn't have to give up a part of yourself for anybody.
bigbopper
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thats bull$hit! tell her to sell her ring to pay for it!mine tried some $hit like that on me before,when i told her that she was speachless and that was the end of it!
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Been together 14 years, married for 12. Had the bike for about 3 years
thats bull$hit! tell her to sell her ring to pay for it!mine tried some $hit like that on me before,when i told her that she was speachless and that was the end of it!
Just a note after seeing this one, none of this is hostile on either part. She has made no secret that she didn't like the idea of the bike from the beginning. I bought it without full permission and aside from one or two comments a year about it she has never given me any true grief about it.
So anyway please no need for bashing the SWMBO on this topic, she is very supportive and I think she is just looking for a carrot to dangle in front of me to encourage me to get rid of the bike without hassling me about it.
snccoulter
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It sounds like she is politely offering you an out. So you can look cool to your friends and not have to say she made me get rid of the bike. But I decided to build the beer shed so I sold the bike. Some times the best idea is to keep her happy and if the bike really does not get used a lot, what will you get the most enjoyment out of. If My wife asked me to get rid of the bike I would I love to ride and I ride almost every other day but if it truly made her unhappy I would get rid of it for her. Why would you do some thing that truly made her unhappy. and how nice would it be to be able to brew in the winter in your own brew shed that you get to design and build.
My SWMBO is a stay at home mom and very rarely gives me any static about "things" (if you cold see my basement and the amount of beer s#it I have you would understand). We have been together 16 years and married happily for 13 of them. That being said I would not buy another bike with out her full support. I would love to have another bike but we have discussed it and deiced that until our son is out of high school it would be best not to buy another bike, bungee jump, sky dive or take part in anything of that nature for the either of us until he is self sufficient.
It is not a financial aspect in our case we have insured for the future should something happen to either of us. It is a child rearing thing for us. I grew up with minimal parental influence especially from my father, my SWMBO on the other hand had two very involved parents and we took note of its positive outcome.
So we have decided to try an minimize the risk factors. I have had too many friends hurt or worse while taking part in activities with heighten risk factors. Not to judging anyone here, and I don't know if the OP has children just sharing my experience. Good luck.
It is not a financial aspect in our case we have insured for the future should something happen to either of us. It is a child rearing thing for us. I grew up with minimal parental influence especially from my father, my SWMBO on the other hand had two very involved parents and we took note of its positive outcome.
So we have decided to try an minimize the risk factors. I have had too many friends hurt or worse while taking part in activities with heighten risk factors. Not to judging anyone here, and I don't know if the OP has children just sharing my experience. Good luck.
And this^^.
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What bike do you ride? IF it's a Harley, don't do it... If it's not, then it's more of a coin toss. If you've tweaked and customized it (at all) then I'd vote for not getting rid of it. There are far better ways to get the funds to build the brew-shed than selling a sweet ride.
One of the saddest days I've had was when I had to give up my softail standard (tweaked slightly) due to being unemployed at the time. I've still not replaced it since I want to make sure that won't happen again.
One of the saddest days I've had was when I had to give up my softail standard (tweaked slightly) due to being unemployed at the time. I've still not replaced it since I want to make sure that won't happen again.
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Golddiggie said:
Puh-lease. Not everybody drinks the kool-aid. I'm a big proponent of whatever gets your knees in the breeze is a good thing, but GEEZ, get your head our of your ass if you think that only the Harley crowd knows what it is to be a "real" motorcylist.
This isn't about branding. It IS about one man and his choice of hobby. Please stop trying to make it a commercial for who is or isn't worthy, in your eyes, of being on two wheels.
Golddiggie
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Before I had a Harley, I might have agreed with you. But once I had one, IMO, you've got your head up your ass. Not looking to make an argument about this, but your comments needed to be responded to. Before having the HD, I had a Yamadog and will NEVER go back to one of those. Not sure if I'll ever get a motorcycle again, but if I do, it will be another Harley.
Ride whatever you like, but don't diss another man's ride... Well, not unless you're wearing Kevlar.
snccoulter
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This thread is not about what bike is cool or not. This thread is about what will be good for his family and relationship with his wife. So who cares what he rides he needs to decide what will make himself happy and make his wife happy. If she tolerates the bike and it is important to him he should keep it and deal with the every now and then comments. If it is not a big deal one way or the other and it will make his wife happy whether it is a fancy Harley or a Moped do what will make her happy and then build a cool brew shed with the cash from the sell of the bike. Simple living with someone is a give and take. It sounds like his wife is being reasonable, and he is simply trying to make a hard decision between hobbies. Now can we return to the topic at hand and not bash each other about our bikes.
If it were me, I'd build a brew shed that I'd use year 'round, unlike the motorcycle which you can only use during the brief warm spells you get up in the northwoods
I agree. I am fortunate, my wife rides and occasionally help with brewing stuff even though she is not a beer drinker.
friday
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I'd just start brewing in her kitchen, a lot of brewing. That should solve the problem.
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If it were me, I'd build a brew shed that I'd use year 'round, unlike the motorcycle which you can only use during the brief warm spells you get up in the northwoods
Exactly. You live in Duluth MN. It has been 30 years since I lived there, but I remember I riding season of about 2 weeks...
Lose the donor cycle and build the shed... and put a heater in the damn thing!
Exactly. You live in Duluth MN. It has been 30 years since I lived there, but I remember I riding season of about 2 weeks...If it were me, I'd build a brew shed that I'd use year 'round, unlike the motorcycle which you can only use during the brief warm spells you get up in the northwoods
Lose the donor cycle and build the shed... and put a heater in the damn thing!
Yep, I'd sell the bike. As others have said, if she's not happy with it, and she's encouraging you to build the brew shed, then what's the dilemma? You'll be able to brew year round. The bike is only good for a short time. And if she's happy, you're happy.
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To be completely honest I had considered selling it last year anyway and now I could be in a win win situtation if it leads to building the brewshed. I was more or less looking for a little agreement that this was about advancing one hobby over the other. I brew year round and am starting to order parts for an eventual single tier, automated lp rig. The brewshed would be awesome for that.
As for the "what type of bike". Its a Vstar, I decided on it as a good starter bike for learning to ride. I honestly would not buy a harley..ever. This isnt a knock on harleys, its my personal thing. I just dislike paying so much more for a name on something. Again, If harleys are your thing and you're happy, then thats all that matters, I just know I wouldn't be.
As for the "what type of bike". Its a Vstar, I decided on it as a good starter bike for learning to ride. I honestly would not buy a harley..ever. This isnt a knock on harleys, its my personal thing. I just dislike paying so much more for a name on something. Again, If harleys are your thing and you're happy, then thats all that matters, I just know I wouldn't be.
snccoulter
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Then win win it is. You get the brew shed, you get the happy wife, and you get to be warm while brewing, and warm when you sleep. sounds like a good plan...
Bernie Brewer
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In that case you need to seriously consider giving up the bike. She was with you first.
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Well you got my support, bro. Look, all the tough guys come in here and say "my woman will NEVER tell me what I'm going to do"
1) they're single or ********.
2) She isn't demanding, she gave you the "keep your dignity" out. Take it!
3) You know you shouldn't have bought it in the first place, right?
4) It sounds like you're comfortable and happy with the decision.
Seriously, this forum cracks me up some days. Get all these guys in here that act like there woman would never tell them to do something and they are the boss of everything. They are either married to fat ugly chicks or their right hands. Marriages are compromises and sometimes you aren't going to see eye to eye. If a man thinks his woman always sees eye to eye with him, he's f'ing blind.
Sell the bike, build a brew shed, buy a sled?
My woman and I compromise on most things we don't just outright agree on, except when it comes to my safety. As the primary bread-winner, her concern for my safety is more than just "i'll miss you", and deserves more thought than "she's just nagging".
My woman and I compromise on most things we don't just outright agree on, except when it comes to my safety. As the primary bread-winner, her concern for my safety is more than just "i'll miss you", and deserves more thought than "she's just nagging".
mrbowenz
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Keep the bike, and hide it in the Brewshed !
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