I have to weigh in once more and stress that besides denial in and of itself, the "system" of support for alcoholism is very heavy-handed and I believe, definitely increases the odds of someone recoiling from them when they need it most.
I wrote my experience a bunch of pages back. In substance, I was forced into rehab/AA based on a false allegation of an ex-. Once it was in the hands of "the authorities", they didn't want to hear anything: both my parents, siblings, friends, everyone who backed me.
I was technically "committed" because of what they considered a lie I told about my alcohol use: I stated that the last time I had drank was a few days before and that I had a glass of wine with 2 friends. My friend described it as, "Yeah we shared a bottle of wine at my house".
I was called a liar because I said one glass. Any f**king idiot knows that a wine bottle has 4-5 glasses in it, so this was a case of words be MISUSED, purposefully.
Now I know one bad experience does not a novel make, but it just went downhill from there: the "authorities" lied to the rehab center about my alcohol use. NOW, this needs to be explained...
Once you are determined to be alcoholic, they immediately do not believe a word you say. So when I said I drink 1-2 beers, 3 times a week, they automatically doubled it for "diagnosis" purposes to 3-6 beers, 3-6 times per week. That is a blatant lie, period, no other way to describe it.
Personally, I know, 100% that I am not an alcoholic, more-so even because of what I saw and was taught in my forced vacation. I went to AA because I had to, lied because I needed signatures after the meetings to prove I went, and never went back the minute my "sentence" was up.
Maybe the treatment program needs to be worked on, or maybe not because at least now I know I didn't belong, and furthermore, that I will never again date a woman I can't trust 100%
