I would do a 3 gallon boil with a partial late extract addition (Add half of your extract at the beginning of the boil, and the other half with just a couple minutes left in the boil, just long enough to kill any bugs). This will help with hop utilization and wort darkening.
Top up to your full volume with cold water (I keep a couple of gallons of spring water in the fridge) to bring temps down rapidly, then chill the rest of the way with an ice bath or wort chiller. I don't know if pouring cold water into near boiling wort is a "bad idea", but I do it gently to avoid splashing, and it brings my temps down much faster and conserves ice since I don't have an immersion chiller. My feeling is that for any possible detriment, conversely there's the benefit that it will preserve flavor and aroma from late hop additions since it brings the temperature down to about 120 degrees F in less than 60 seconds.