Well, I'll detail my process but based on what you have detailed so far in this thread, I am no more careful than you are. Just to add some credibility, I make a hoppy pale ale (which has been accused of being an IPA more than once) which routinely scores 40+ in contests without ever having a judge note oxidation flavors. So at least for me, I am sure my process works. My friends also rave about my DIPA but I have never entered it in a contest. I have struggled with making a regular IPA, but I'll detail those issue below.
For kegging my beers, I generally pressurize and purge my empty, sanitized keg keg 3-4 times. When I crack it open there is generally a nice CO2 fog in there that keeps me from seeing the bottom. I run sanitizer through my auto-siphon but I don't purge it with CO2 (but I've heard it suggested that you should and may start doing that just in case). I then crack my lid on my bucket fermenter just enough to fit the auto-siphon in there. I don't do this to keep oxygen out, I do it so the lid will hold the auto-siphon in place so I don't have to hold it, but it might help. I then make sure it only takes 1 good pump to get the siphon going. I make sure my hose is near the bottom of the keg (so it become quick submerged) and it flows against the wall of the keg with no splashing. Once done I seal up the keg, purge again 3-4 times and then throw it in the kegerator under pressure, depending on my other needs, sometimes at 30psi for a quick force carb, sometimes at serving pressure for a normal force carb.
Now as I said, I have made delicious, problem free DIPA's and hoppy pale ales, but I was struggling a lot to make a great IPA. I most definitely had a couple of batches ruined by oxidation. This usually happened if I had a violent fermentation that would blow the lid off my fermenter. Every time this happened my IPA would end up oxidized no matter how quickly I caught the problem. I rectified this problem with the combination of blow-off tubes and fermcap-S. As a matter of fact, ever since I started using fermcap-S I haven't even needed the blowoff tube.
Even with that problem fixed I still had a couple of other batches end up oxidized. What I discovered was that I had a couple of bucket fermenters that didn't get a 100% good seal. Common wisdom around here says fermentation should put a nice protective CO2 layer on your beer, but my personal experience was that if I didn't have a tight seal I would have oxidation issues. Now maybe if I transfered as soon as active fermentation was complete I would have been fine, but generally I let my beers sit in the primary for ~two weeks. Maybe once active fermentation was done they started picking up oxygen, I don't know. What I do know is that once I stopped using the suspect fermenters I haven't had an oxidation issue since. Obviously I have some correlation here, but not causation, at least not for sure.
Now I suppose my IPA's could have been picking up the oxygen during the addition of dry hops, but I use the same method all the time. I take the quick-disconnect off a CO2 line, put the line in the airlock hole and turn on the gas. Then I crack the lid just enough to add my hops, seal it back up, let the gas run for another 30 seconds, replace the airlock, done. Works just fine for my other hoppy beers.
Once I solved my oxidation issue, I was still having this "off flavor" in my IPA's that I just didn't like. I would share with friends and they would all tell me they like it, but I just wasn't having it. I didn't think it was oxidation, maybe an ester problem but I was using the same yeast and fermentation temp as my hoppy pale and DIPA, but something just wasn't right to me. Finally I grabbed all my recipes and brew notes to try to figure out what was different about my IPA's that just wasn't working.
Then I noticed a trend, all of my IPA's included Citra hops. Neither my DIPA or hoppy pale had them. I did some research and found a blog entry describing the flavor of Citra as "over-ripe mango" and a light went off in my head. That was exactly what I was tasting and was exactly the flavor I didn't like. Made perfect sense why my friends all told me my IPA tasted fine to them as well, a lot of people really enjoy Citra and it is a popular IPA hop. Rewrote the recipe to exclude Citra and just put the first batch of the reformulated recipe on gas in the kegerator. Based on the hydrometer sample, I think I have finally nailed it, but won't know for sure for another week or so.
Overall, I probably have brewed 10 IPA's that just didn't turn out. Probably lost 5 batches to oxidation then the next 5 were due to my dislike of Citra. Because my sample of beers lost to oxidation is so small, I can't say with a 100% certainty that the fermenters were truly the issue. Could be I was just sloppy in other processes and it is just a coincidence.
But as you can see, my methods aren't much different than yours. First I would make absolutely sure that oxidation is your issue. Maybe you just have a flavor issue that you are misdiagnosing as oxidation. Outside of that, just purge everything with CO2. Purge your fermenter before you crack the lid to put a nice layer in there, purge your auto-siphon, everything. Then purge it all again.