There are lots of great IPAs out there. If you cannot find one, my guess is that the style isn't for you.
I don't even bother trying IPAs anymore. That style is not for me. They're far too bitter, which is odd because I'm the person who will pass on desserts and other sweets yet I like a malty/sweeter beer.
I used to be in the "IPAs are not for me" camp, and there's nothing wrong with that. I dislike intensely bitter beers, the kind that threaten to peel the enamel off your teeth.
But it turns out that there are more fish in the IPA sea than just those intensely bitter beers. I've helped a friend start homebrewing--he just completed his 9th batch--and he loves IPAs. BUT--his are beers that have intense hop aroma and flavor, but not necessarily intense bitterness.
Naturally this was the style he wanted to brew, so we found a recipe for an IPA, tweaked it a bit, then set out to brew it. He is big on dry hopping and late additions, so that's what these brews have tended to feature. We did a Dogfish Head sort of clone, a Boston Lager sort of clone (with much more hoppiness), and some other variants he's played around with. There's a little bit of Yooperness in there as well as we took some ideas from some of her recipe postings.
They're very good, very good--and I'm not an IPA guy. But I like these. I was surprised. I don't like IPAs. But I like these.
And FWIW--and acknowledging Yooper's "ugly baby" syndrome or the tendency of people to believe their beer is better than it is--I have not found a commercial IPA that I find better than what my friend is brewing. They tend to be too bitter for the flavor and aroma they provide.
Finally: I have a saying about all this. "
People like what they like." I'm not a Stout guy. I've tried hard to like Guinness, it just doesn't taste good to me. I have no idea what people see in it. But that's just my taste.