My first reaction to your sparge question was that you are milling to coarsely. My sparges take at least 20-30 minutes to add all the water, and another 30+ minutes draining the basket while I'm heating to a boil.
I believe my mill is set somewhere around 0.028.
I have stuck/very slow sparge problems when doing large grain bills over about 17 lbs or more. I've started using a 1/2 pound of rice hulls in all my large grain bills and my sparges still go very slow.
Wow, that's a pretty narrow setting. I still have my mill set at the factory .039 and have thought about narrowing it a bit. Do you find a lot of gains in your kettle? My efficiency has not really gone up after moving from my water cooler/false bottom set up so I am thinking my milling is the issue.