bottlebomber
Well-Known Member
I can't believe I'm saying something this insensitive at your moment of hardship... but I've been through some really bad relationships, and through it all have seen women consistently act with a cunning that few men could even comprehend. If you truly know your lady you will know that this is not true, and so please disregard it.
Why was she in the states in the first place? I'm not sure if you mentioned that. The reason I'm asking is, because beautiful young asian women are somewhat notorious (and I'm not even being remotely bigoted here, I could site at least a half dozen cases I've witnessed personally) for wanting to find a way to secure citizenship through marrying an American man. When you said that she stated her father would only accept you if you were engaged/married, hint hint? If she got into the country in the first place, how hard is it really to get an extension on her visa? Or realistically, what are the repercussions for her staying a little longer?
If you really want to go the long haul with this woman, put it to a test by fire. Too often men go the extra mile for women, while the women do next to nothing. If this girl is as sincere about this relationship as you are, make her work for it. You can go over there for christmas, but she should have to come to you for the summer, for example.
Don't hand yourself to anyone on a silver platter.
Why was she in the states in the first place? I'm not sure if you mentioned that. The reason I'm asking is, because beautiful young asian women are somewhat notorious (and I'm not even being remotely bigoted here, I could site at least a half dozen cases I've witnessed personally) for wanting to find a way to secure citizenship through marrying an American man. When you said that she stated her father would only accept you if you were engaged/married, hint hint? If she got into the country in the first place, how hard is it really to get an extension on her visa? Or realistically, what are the repercussions for her staying a little longer?
If you really want to go the long haul with this woman, put it to a test by fire. Too often men go the extra mile for women, while the women do next to nothing. If this girl is as sincere about this relationship as you are, make her work for it. You can go over there for christmas, but she should have to come to you for the summer, for example.
Don't hand yourself to anyone on a silver platter.