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..the wife, or the homebrew hobby?...
Best advice I have heard all week! :rockin:McKBrew said:Depends on which one you love more. Best bet, if you like brewing and want to keep the wife, let her find an expensive hobby or two. It might cost you a little $$$, but it's great to hold over her head when she starts griping about how much money you spend to make beer.
Damn Squirrels said:Take the King Solomon approach.
Get rid of the one which is complaining about the other. If the homebrewing is complaining about the wife, get rid of the homebrewing.
Schlenkerla said:My wife bitches about the time I spend on the computer chatting with you guys and brewing.
She has no problem going out with the ladies when she wants and will watch an endless amount of crap TV. I hate crap TV; Oprah, American Idol, Survivor, Nanny 911, The HBO shows Intervention, MTV's Real World. Any reality BS Show.
She watches a ton of it. Just last night I said stop watching the stuff you know I hate and I will spend more time with you. Last night we watched 3 hours of "The Shield" together. We had to catch up on the show we watch while I was out of the country for two weeks.
You have to agree on how much time you spend together and how much time you spend doing your thing.
I would never give up brewing for my wife just because she doesn't like it very much. I won't allow her to make those kind of rules for me. If I did, they would never stop coming. She's not my mother. If my wife was ill and couldn't take care of herself then thats another case. The reason would have to be really good for me to quit this hobby.
If you like doing it, then do it. Its no longer lent!!
Make her give up something she likes doing. See what she says.
My wife has no hobby, she needs one. She never seems to find one. Her life revolves around TV. I will bring it up everytime crap TV is on....
It might be phase shes going through. I would just talk it out, a lot of times they just want to heard.
Todd said:Honestly I see a divorce in your future. You seem to have a very negative attitude about the woman who is suppose to be your soul mate. The person who completes you.
Why did you get married?
Do you spend too much time brewing? Do you drink too much?
Schlenkerla said:OMG are you a newlywed or did you just finish watching Jerry Mcguire?
I think you are dead wrong. I been married 9 years, common law 16 years. I will spend all of the time she wants with her as long as its something we can do that we both like. I will not give up somthing I like to do something I detest. Frankly, that's not fair and will never happen. (On a regular basis)
Its a two way street here. She doesn't make all of the rules. If she did it would not be a balanced relationship. To answer your question, no I don't spend too much time brewing and I hardly drink.
If I was to divorce my wife it would not be for brewing or drinking. I would be for her thinking she can make all the rules in this relationship. My wife can be overbearing at times and tends to worry too much about little things. She takes meds for it too.
My point earlier is sometimes you need to placate to their desires and feelings. They seem to operate off of emotion more so than logic at times. As I said earlier somethimes they just want to be heard and know that you care.
If you don't know this already you don't know women very well. -
Schlenkerla said:OMG are you a newlywed or did you just finish watching Jerry Mcguire?
Todd said:I've been married 6 yrs.
I guess I just took what you were saying wrong. If my wife is watching shows I don't like I also don't hang out with her. She has never told me to quite doing something I like, I took that to mean you had a problem.
Sorry.
Beerrific said:I caught **** from SWMBO last time I brewed because it took so long. It was myfirst mini-mash, I told her it would take 2 hours...opps! But, I think she is over it since she helped me bottle last week.
From now on:
SWMBO: "How long is this going to take?"
Me: "All day!"
SWMBO: "Can we go ___ after you are done?"
Me: "Nope, I am going to be too tired."
rdwj said:Outside of not liking anything I make, my wife is mostly fine with brewing. Sometimes she gets annoyed that a session takes so long, but I guess she thinks it's better than some other things I could be doing.
Thankfully, we both pretty much like the same shows, movies and food and have similar outlooks on life. I guess that's why we get along so well.
seefresh said:LOL, 3 pages and the original poster hasn't even replied. He was probably just blowing off steam, found this board, made the simple post and has no idea what he started.
DeadYetiBrew said:. . .and made it about her.
Drunkensatyr said:p.s. I personally think you are all reading too much into the O.P. I took it as a joke topic..... "If you had to choose one, which would it be?" kind of thing
.code.decode. said:..the wife, or the homebrew hobby?...
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