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http://news.yahoo.com/first-grader-suspended-singing-im-sexy-know-170724238--abc-news-topstories.html

A Colorado elementary school student was suspended from school this week for singing a lyric from a popular LMFAO song, "I'm sexy and I know it."

Those six little words from the Los Angeles rap-influenced duo earned first-grader D'Avonte Meadows a three day dismissal from Sable Elementary in Aurora, Colo.

"I only just said the song," Meadows told Denver's ABC7 News. "I'm sexy and I know it."

School officials said D'Avonte was suspended for sexual harassment after he sang and the line to a female classmate who was standing in a lunch line. Unfortunately, it wasn't the first time he'd serenaded this girl with this particular lyric.

Aurora School District's Media Relations Specialist Paula Hans, said in a statement:

"Aurora Public Schools is committed to providing equitable learning for all students. We have policies and protocol in place to prevent any disruption to the learning environment. Due to privacy laws, we are unable to discuss appropriate disciplinary consequences about a specific student."

District policy, as outlined in the student handbook, states that sexual harassment "must have negative effects on the learning or work of others."

D'Avonte's mother, Stephanie Meadows, told ABC7 News that her son had had disciplinary problems before this week's infraction. Last month, she said, he was sent to the principal's office for singing the same song to the same girl.

This time, however, he was "shaking his booty" near the girl's face, Meadows told ABC7 News.

"I'm going to definitely have to sit with him and see if he understands exactly what the song means," Meadows told ABC7 News.

But Meadows still doesn't believe her son's recent actions justify suspension for sexual harassment.

"I could understand if he was fondling her, looking up her skirt, trying to look in her shirt. That, to me, is sexual harassment," Meadows told ABC7 News. "I'm just, I'm floored. They're going to look at him like he's a pervert. And it's like, that's not fair to him."
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I'd have suspended him too. That song sucks.
 
Pants around your arse is fine though?? What a bunch of garbage, common sense in the school system is lost in America!!
 
Sounds like he was warned to stop more than once. He didn't listen. Sounds like the school system is just fine to me. If my daughter told me some kid was shaking his ass in her face and she told him to stop, as well as told the teacher, I'd want his ass to learn a lesson too.
 
Well, for this I would maybe have expected the school to schedule a meeting with the kid AND HIS MOM to straighten him out. Apparently schools today are not inclined to meet with parents and get personal with them or their kids.

This should have been a parenting issue first and a suspension after (Or maybe just detention??) I mean the kid is pretty young.
 
Homercidal said:
Well, for this I would maybe have expected the school to schedule a meeting with the kid AND HIS MOM to straighten him out. Apparently schools today are not inclined to meet with parents and get personal with them or their kids.

This should have been a parenting issue first and a suspension after (Or maybe just detention??) I mean the kid is pretty young.
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I agree that it's a parenting issue, but the parent knew the kid did this from the previous month's offence. Clearly the parent didn't do a good enough job.

We don't know how big this school is, so staff may not have been available to facilitate the meeting between the parent and student, even if it was the best thing to do.

If there isn't the man power to schedule meetings between kids and parents (or if the schools believe parenting should happen at home), then perhaps the alternative is to kick the kid out for a few days and force the parents to teach their kids what is and isn't acceptable in schools.
 
Kittyfeet said:
I agree that it's a parenting issue, but the parent knew the kid did this from the previous month's offence. Clearly the parent didn't do a good enough job.

We don't know how big this school is, so staff may not have been available to facilitate the meeting between the parent and student, even if it was the best thing to do.

If there isn't the man power to schedule meetings between kids and parents (or if the schools believe parenting should happen at home), then perhaps the alternative is to kick the kid out for a few days and force the parents to teach their kids what is and isn't acceptable in schools.
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We know the parent is aware. We know the school was aware. We don't know that the school and the parent talked about what happened and how to best prevent this kind of thing from happening again.

I feel it's usually better to have the kid with the parent and the school so the kid knows that the parent and the school is on the same wavelength.

And I personally know a kid who would do this and frankly I doubt he would stop just because he was told not to and had already had punishments. That's just the way he was. He had more strikes on his record than a box of Diamond kitchen matches.
 
I'm sure he had been told not to do it a few times and since he kept doing it he had to be told a different way. Although suspension might be a little far (in shcool suspension might have gotten the point across just as well) I do agree with the outcome.

There are too many brats that think they don't have to respect others and too many parents who think their kids are saints. Looks like the whole family learned a lesson here :D
 
We are talking about 6 or 7 year old child and I doubt very much the child understands the word sexy the way an adult would. I also have my doubts if a 6 or 7 year old can "sexually harass" any one as the intent to harass may be there but the "sexual" cannot because I do not believe a 6 or 7 year child knows what sex is. (If they do then the police should be called). So maybe expelling the child for insubordination or other misbehavior but sexual harassment is inappropriate term to use when dealing with a 6 or 7 year old child.
 
Possibly the kid and his parents learned a lesson . However, schools in the US are too busy being concerned about what the kids wear, and " little " infractions, that education goes to the wayside . How else can you explain the rules against bandanas, red,blue,and yellow shoe laces,and holes in the knees of jeans ( holes in almost any other place is acceptable ) , all being reasons to send the kid home from school for the day, or longer.
 
Normally I dislike statistics, but I wanted to see how this school ranked with other schools in Colorado. This is the first site found; there may be others out there with differing info.

Snipped from http://www.city-data.com/school/sable-elementary-school-co.html

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City-data.com school rating (using weighted 2009 test average as compared to other schools in Colorado) from 0 (worst) to 100 (best) is 11.

School rating:
Score: -1.21 (Low)

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This school clearly has some issues to work though. Perhaps the behavioral problems, and how they're dealt with, are part of the problem.
 
I think it's important to note that this is also an M&Ms candy commercial on all channels. Not exactly risque by today's standards. lol

We are destroying children these days... assaulting them with adult hypocrisy.

I got a call from my daughters catholic school when she was in grade 1 stating that her and some kids were playing house in the playground... my response... "How cute!"
 
I have no issue with the school warning the student and then suspending him. I never got a warning or talk with my parents when I rigged the Homecoming election in my HS, was straight to ISS.

It's less offensive to me than my neighbor's 7yo daughter on her karaoke machine in the front yard singing *****cat Dolls Don't Cha and dancing to it.
 
Hauntedyards said:
I think it's important to note that this is also an M&Ms candy commercial on all channels. Not exactly risque by today's standards. lol

We are destroying children these days... assaulting them with adult hypocrisy.

I got a call from my daughters catholic school when she was in grade 1 stating that her and some kids were playing house in the playground... my response... "How cute!"
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I had to have a meeting with the principal for my middle son because "he made a gun with his hand" I stared at her waiting for more of the story but that was it!! I find dealing with the school system very frustrating.
 
Transamguy77 said:
I had to have a meeting with the principal for my middle son because "he made a gun with his hand" I stared at her waiting for more of the story but that was it!! I find dealing with the school system very frustrating.
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Wow... When I was in 2nd grade we would fold paper up to make guns. we could even "rack" it after we figured out the folds. We would write the models too and use markers to color them silver and black then go out for recess and play as secret agents or something. Pretty sure the entire class would have been suspended if that were done today.

This was pre-Columbine though.
 
If my 1st grader were suspended, he'd be thrilled. He hates getting up in the morning. Is this really a punishment in the child's eyes?

When I was in grade school, the pricipal had a paddle. There were "rumors" that he wasn't afraid to use it. It sure kept us in line...just sayin'.
 
lschiavo said:
If my 1st grader were suspended, he'd be thrilled. He hates getting up in the morning. Is this really a punishment in the child's eyes?
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why would you let him sleep in? it's a punishment if you make it one. I agree he'd be thrilled if he got to sleep in... So don't let him sleep in.

:D
 
BrewKnurd said:
why would you let him sleep in? it's a punishment if you make it one. I agree he'd be thrilled if he got to sleep in... So don't let him sleep in.

:D
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I'm sure I wouldn't if I were in this situation but he'd still have a day off from school. It just doesn't seem like it gets the point across to someone that age.

We used to have in-school suspension where we sat in a book room all day. We only got out for bathroom and lunch. I was there ONCE and it made an impression...talk about boredom.
 
lschiavo said:
I'm sure I wouldn't if I were in this situation but he'd still have a day off from school. It just doesn't seem like it gets the point across to someone that age.

We used to have in-school suspension where we sat in a book room all day. We only got out for bathroom and lunch. I was there ONCE and it made an impression...talk about boredom.
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Agreed that in school suspension is probably a more assured deterrent,but in many cases, a parent committed to the cause can make out of school suspension equally miserable.
 
BrewKnurd said:
Agreed that in school suspension is probably a more assured deterrent,but in many cases, a parent committed to the cause can make out of school suspension equally miserable.
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Point well taken. I just do not believe that either the parent or the school should pass this off to the other. Dicipline from both sides is most effective.

My kids are pretty well behaved and are quite used to scoldings/punishments at home. In a case like this, a punishment that involves their peers/teachers can be very effective.
 
lschiavo said:
Point well taken. I just do not believe that either the parent or the school should pass this off to the other. Dicipline from both sides is most effective.

My kids are pretty well behaved and are quite used to scoldings/punishments at home. In a case like this, a punishment that involves their peers/teachers can be very effective.
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I'm going to have to teach your oldest a song or two :D

Actually being YOUR kid, he probably knows more hard stuff than I do, but it might be close if we count 90s grunge.

I guess my feeling in this is that it isn't "sexual harassment" as a 1st grader just can't formulate the intent for that. But it IS a behavior issue and since it's been addressed in the past, and not fixed, the only way to deal with it is to take extraneous measures, like suspension.

I've seen WAY too many parents not take responsibility for their children's behavior and leave it up to the schools to feed them, clothe them, teach them ethics and also try to educate them. Let's let our educators teach and give them the tools to do this by forcing parents to take some responsibility for their children's misbehavior. I'm really sick of parents making excuses for their children, although that doesn't seem to be the case here.

Any first grader can be told once that certain behavior is not going to be tolerated, and then the only recourse once that happens is to give them the consequences.
 
Yooper said:
I'm going to have to teach your oldest a song or two :D

Actually being YOUR kid, he probably knows more hard stuff than I do, but it might be close if we count 90s grunge.

I guess my feeling in this is that it isn't "sexual harassment" as a 1st grader just can't formulate the intent for that. But it IS a behavior issue and since it's been addressed in the past, and not fixed, the only way to deal with it is to take extraneous measures, like suspension.

I've seen WAY too many parents not take responsibility for their children's behavior and leave it up to the schools to feed them, clothe them, teach them ethics and also try to educate them. Let's let our educators teach and give them the tools to do this by forcing parents to take some responsibility for their children's misbehavior. I'm really sick of parents making excuses for their children, although that doesn't seem to be the case here.

Any first grader can be told once that certain behavior is not going to be tolerated, and then the only recourse once that happens is to give them the consequences.
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He may be able to teach you a few new ones by now too:) He is wise in the ways of too many things...for 7 years old.

If dicipline starts in the school, it should be followed through by the school and not just dismissed as a "home" problem (in this case, I think the school should do more than suspension). Agreed, the parent needs to take an active roll in this as well for it to be effective. Either party washing their hands of it will not be productive IMO.
 

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