As long as your clean you can't really do it wrong. You have live, healthy yeast, and you are giving them good food. You can stir for 12 hr and leave it or stir the whole time for up to three days, or not stir at all. If I'm stepping up from a slant I usually stir for 24 hr, add more wort, repeat, add more wort, repeat, then leave for 12-24hr, chill, decant and start over if I still need more yeast (10g batch or lager, e.g.)
Apparently if you're going to chill it before pitching it you must let it completely finish fermenting and build up its glycol reserves. Then when you chill it can drop out and go dormant for up to two weeks before I worry about feeding it.
If you really like overkill (and I do) I'll take a cup or so of my first runnings, dilute to about 1.040-50, boil for 10m in a saucepan while I'm lautering, chill it and use it to feed the starter. When I'm ready to pitch two hours later, it's awake and ready to party
But again, you can't go wrong. If it's overflowing that just means you need a smaller starter or bigger flask.
Here's another great read on yeast culturing:
http://www.maltosefalcons.com/tech/MB_Raines_Guide_to_Yeast_Culturing.php