Why is recreational sex the first to go

[GilaMinumBeer]

Want lots of sex with the wife and money to go take her out and get her in the mood?

Here's a novel idea. Don't have kids. It's not like its not common knowledge that having kids increases stress, decreases your money, and decreases the quality time you two can spend together. Alone.

There's an evolutionary epiphany for ya'.

Having kids should in no way be an excuse to forgoing spousal relations. It's those relations that got the kids there in the first place. In reality, those relations are as good a adjunct to sleep, stress releiver, and general sedative as anything.

Honestly, couples with kids would probly have more sanity if they'd just make more time for plain ole' fvcking each others brains out regularly. As long as they have a substantial form of birth control!

As to the money, meh. Both the wife an I have demoted ourselves in the paygrade context to ALLOW ourselves the time to have a family. I know lots of folks who command rediculous incomes and are miserable because they have no time to enjoy the cash flow with the family and realise the fruits of that labor. They are just too busy trying to maintain the ladder they climbed for the income.

I'd rather enjoy my family on a budget than hear about it via a conference call. And while it is expensive to have children, it's not like it all has to be paid upfront.

 

[Darwin18]

I agree with what you're saying and your kids and family obviously bring you a lot of happiness.

I just don't understand why people are stunned that sex is the first thing that goes when the kids arrive. Your relationship switches from focusing on each other to focusing on your children. The relationship evolves to a partnership. Working all day, taking care of the kids, chores, etc., doesn't leave a lot of time for the couple to spend with each other.

Get a baby sitter, take the wife out and spend some quality time WITHOUT the kids. Reconnect.

 

[IrregularPulse]

Get a baby sitter, take the wife out and spend some quality time WITHOUT the kids. Reconnect.

Couldn't have been better said. It's important to not let your kids BE your relationship. Husband and wife is still the relationship. Not Child Raising Team. That is just one piece of the puzzle.

 

[Beerbeque]

I guess I am one of the lucky guys. After reading these posts I realize that I am still getting more than the average amount of sex. Married 30 years now. Our one and only is 26. We had a very active sex life all along. He only caught us once. ( he didn't see anything but he knew what we were doing when he walked in) He still teases us about it. But we still take time for good lovin. More and more we just have "get your rocks off sex" in the morning but we still take time for more special half hour plus sex with lots of oral. She still likes to do that. God love her! In fact this morning when she left for work I warned her that I was gonna take her down tonite after dinner. She gave me that sexy little girl "OK" smile that I've seen so many times. She was oversexed when I married her and she still likes to get crazy and creative with our screwing.

 

[AnonyBrew]

If this thread were in a more "secret" place I might comment on this more.

 

[IrregularPulse]

I guess I am one of the lucky guys. After reading these posts I realize that I am still getting more than the average amount of sex. Married 30 years now. Our one and only is 26. We had a very active sex life all along. He only caught us once. ( he didn't see anything but he knew what we were doing when he walked in) He still teases us about it. But we still take time for good lovin. More and more we just have "get your rocks off sex" in the morning but we still take time for more special half hour plus sex with lots of oral. She still likes to do that. God love her! In fact this morning when she left for work I warned her that I was gonna take her down tonite after dinner. She gave me that sexy little girl "OK" smile that I've seen so many times. She was oversexed when I married her and she still likes to get crazy and creative with our screwing.

Don't really think this is the kind of stuff those of us who are deprived want to be reading. Thanks jerk!

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Ha. I think it's great!

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

If this thread were in a more "secret" place I might comment on this more.

Man up! and get your heuvos outta her coin purse.

 

[MikeM]

In reguards to "relations", a wise man once told me:
-When you first get married its Tri-weekly
-After a few months its Try-weekly
-After a few years its Try-weakly.
Thanks, don't forget to tip your servers.

 

[MikeM]

All kidding aside, you need to find your aphrodisiac. The following work for me:
1) If I look at a lot of internet porn, I get so horney that I actually participate in foreplay, like foot rubs and other lame stuff
2) If we fight a lot (which is a regular occurance), that ususally gets us going
3) exersice seems to get things going

good luck

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

All kidding aside, you need to find your aphrodisiac. The following work for me:
1) If I look at a lot of internet porn, I get so horney that I actually participate in foreplay, like foot rubs and other lame stuff
2) If we fight a lot (which is a regular occurance), that ususally gets us going
3) exersice seems to get things going

good luck

My aphrodesiac is being awake.

Hers, involves shopping. I think a hooker would be cheaper in that regard.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Wife went to visit the general practicioner and of course, he suggested that more activity and some weight loss would be the best medicine for most of what ailes her.

Now, she's suggesting we entertain each other a couple times a week.

Woot! I am gonna have to buy that man a beer! Of course, I'll believe her only after I get to see the bouncing balls.

 

[david_42]

Maybe time for that stripper pole in the recroom?

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Maybe time for that stripper pole in the recroom?

I was thinking more along the line of one of those hanging chairs, with a swivel and a spring.

 

[silvervan83]

I was thinking more along the line of one of those hanging chairs, with a swivel and a spring.

I would go with the "sex swing"
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we have one, And its GREAT

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

How much was it?

Doh! Looked at the image and not the page. $150.00

 

[aekdbbop]

I have an issue with the title of this thread. Recreational sex stopped when we started trying to have kids. That was about 10 years ago. 3 kids later, nursing, co-sleeping, sick kids etc etc. we have really only started (as of about 6 months ago) having recreational sex again. We both missed it. Try to make time - it is worth it.

god dont tell me this..

 

[IrregularPulse]

Wife went to visit the general practicioner and of course, he suggested that more activity and some weight loss would be the best medicine for most of what ailes her.

Now, she's suggesting we entertain each other a couple times a week.

Woot! I am gonna have to buy that man a beer! Of course, I'll believe her only after I get to see the bouncing balls.

Congratsa. A trip to Hospital eh....

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Congratsa. A trip to Hospital eh....

?? family doctor. Turns out she has an ear infection and her muscle aches are suspected to be weight related. She's not a big girl but, she hasn't lost any weight from the last baby.

I am both perplexed and thrilled to hear this. On the one hand, it prompts her to get jiggy but, on the other I like how she carries the weight. Her a$$ has never looked so good (asian's tend to have little in that department)

 

[the_bird]

I am both perplexed and thrilled to hear this. On the one hand, it prompts her to get jiggy but, on the other I like how she carries the weight. Her a$$ has never looked so good (asian's tend to have little in that department)

Pictures or it's not true.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Pictures or it's not true.

The only pictures I have of my wifes a$$ are self portraits. She won't let me otherwise, becuase of these very suggestions.

She's seen too much red. And even if I snuck one in, chances are, that'd be the last of her pink I'd ever see again.