Why I hate SWMBO

[Boerderij_Kabouter]

I think in any real relationships there are things one gives and takes. If I was still single, I would eat ramen noodles for two weeks so I could save for some new stainless fittings. However, it is not fair of me to ask my wife to do the same. In that respect, when you become deeply involved with someone, you automatically have to consider their wishes before making any decisions. I think for most people, the "I need clearance from the SWMBO" thing is about money. If we were all billionaires I don't think it would be a big deal, but when we are talking about equipment upgrades or other large purchases, whether your significant other likes beer or not is irrelevant. It is tough to argue that you need a SS conical more than food or a nice date out alone.

 

[Tonedef131]

My wife rules and I look forward to her opinion of everything I brew. I think she has a more sensitive pallet than I do and I take what she says very seriously. She loves beer, not as broad of styles as I do, but considering she drank BMC when we started dating I am very happy. The whole "If she isn't happy, nobody is" mentality goes both ways. Whether it is the husband or wife, no household is peaceful if they are not trying to please each other. You gotta let those stereotypes go man, I know as many men who don't like beer as I do women.

That said SWMBO is extremely irritating. It was never that clever or funny to begin with and I wish it would go away.

 

[Alamo_Beer]

It is tough to argue that you need a SS conical more than a nice date out alone.

But honey the conical will last a LIFETIME! We're just talking about 1 night here.

 

[Jester369]

It is tough to argue that you need a SS conical more than food or a nice date out alone.

Heh heh heh... Red bought me mine

 

[EdWort]

My SWMBO MADE me build a brewhaus. Heh heh heh.

She can't wait till all my stuff is out of the garage, kitchen, living room, family room, laundry room, etc.

 

[slim chillingsworth]

I'm going to just leave this one to die because you guys are taking my responses to one post and applying them to another. I can't go through and respond to all of that.


You've all made your point, clearly you see things differently than I do.

 

[cheezydemon]

Well, the title alone was less than PC.

But it is simple, anyone who puts "love of beer" on their checklist of potential spouses has just cut some of the best potential mates out of the equation.

Besides, HE married her, you didn't, what's the problem?

 

[Alamo_Beer]

I wish there as an Anti-Prost button sometimes

 

[blacklab]

I'm going to just leave this one to die because you guys are taking my responses to one post and applying them to another. I can't go through and respond to all of that.

You can't stop multi quote, you can only try to contain it.

 

[Beerthoven]

I wish there as an Anti-Prost button sometimes

Go to the toolbar at the top of the thread and look for "Rate Thread". Give the thread one star, which means it's a terrible thread. I've done it before.

 

[Alamo_Beer]

Go to the toolbar at the top of the thread and look for "Rate Thread". Give the thread one star, which means it's a terrible thread. I've done it before.

Done

 

[Special Hops]

My wife does not drink beer. But she doesn't care if I brew it and drink it.

Fine by me. That leaves more beer for me.

 

[DubbelDach]

http://www.terifahrendorf.com/pink-boots-society.htm

Yay Whitney! (PA - Troeg's, but formerly of ABC)

 

[scox80]

In slims defense (which is going to be a slim one....haha) I can see where he is coming from......

First of all putting in perspective slims night....he was drinking and arguing with someone who was obviously purposely pushing his buttons...or she really is just a leather wearing, whip wielding....well Yooper's avatar. This person just happen to be his friends woman...or for the sake of making more accustomed to this forum... this person just happen to be his friends SWMBO.

He obviously came home with a buzz and attacked an innocent little acronym due to his experience with the literal meaning of it. Unfortunately the way he worded the OP, he seemed to be addressing all of us. And of course since we are all proud to have the women that we do... especially Jester ;-) ... we got offended. I see his point though. The fact is.. there are women that are like that and there are men who date and/or court them and put up with them. I can't count the times I have told a guy..."seriously it's easy you should start brewing too. It's a blast and VERY rewarding, cheap too...kinda!" Just to get a response like..."yeah I don't think I could get my wife to buy into it." I have a friend that is like that with his lady. I swear to god she carries his manhood in her Coach make up bag that he bought for her. But she's hot and thats all that matters to him. Guess what he's not on this forum toying with phrase SWMBO either. What I'm trying to say is, Slim I feel ya bro, it bugs me to see it too. But there is a reason why you don't hear about it a lot on this board. We all have the exact opposite of a SWMBO. And we all are very proud of that. Which is why we so freely use that term. Basically we are all making fun of the women who are like that.

And to everyone else who got irritated with his FAILED rant....do you remember that last time you were a little druck and someone argued with you about something you truly care about...ya kinda stay pissed off till the next morning when you wake up. He just addressed the wrong crowd with his rant. While he was probably addressing just the people who do have these type of relationships he just did it on the wrong forum.

 

[adrock]

I'm with you scox, if that's what was really going on. I failed to see the first time around that the thread was started @ 1 am Austin time. Heaven knows I've had some drunken rants in my day! And we are in the "Drunken Ramblings" forum, so it makes sense to me.

My apologies for the harshness of my criticism to the OP's harsh criticism.

 

[Buford]

My wife simply does not like the taste of beer (other than a Bavarian hefeweizen). She does not disapprove of me brewing, in fact, she encourages me to do it because she knows how much I enjoy it.

I think beer is mainly "a guy's thing" and, of course, there are many exceptions. There are quite a few female brewers here at HBT and they are just as knowledgeable as the male brewers. I'm just saying, in general terms, guys like beer more than girls like beer.

While a generalization, this may be partially due to social perception of it and that generally females are more likely to be "supertasters". It's a genetic thing. "Supertasters" perceive bitterness much more strongly and sharply and tend to find it completely unlikable. It isn't unknown in men, but it's more likely to express in women. A "supertaster" is unlikely to ever enjoy the taste of beer or things like black coffee or unsweetened tea.

 

[buckrogers71]

i didnt read this thread all the way through but on another board we call the wife, or SWMBO, the bridal unit... i do things to extent to appease the "bridal unit" but i wont let it stand in bewteen stuff i like to do, Ie: drink beer, play golf, etc (starting to brew this fall...I feel like a little giddy child)

i know for a fact if not for my "swmbo" i would prolly be face down in a gutter.

 

[Aleforge]

Ignorant or not, I still feel women love to argue.

 

[menschmaschine]

To the OP:

Based on your description of your experience at your buddy's house, I think there's a pretty good chance that this is the case: It's not so much that your buddy's "lady" doesn't like beer, it's that she doesn't like you. Being anti-beer (which she was probably somewhat ambivalent about before getting into a debate with you) was just a way for her to vent her negative emotions of having to be around you.

Now, I'm not saying anything bad about you (sometimes people just plain don't like each other)... I'm just saying I don't think your buddy's girl likes you and with that in the picture, your "friendship" with your buddy is on thin ice.

Just my $.02

 

[PeteOz77]

I prescribe

THIS

For SWFAM

Then we can move on....

 

[Homercidal]

Slim, I see where you are coming from, but you need to let it go. It's his problem (if it's even a problem for him) not yours. He didnt' marry you, he married this other girl so let them live their life. It's not nice to criticize anothers significant other, even if you mean well. Best you can do is offer a little "I hear ya man!" when the complain about something.

Maybe offer to have him over to brew with you. If the atmosphere at their place is a bit chilly, then try to do stuff outside that environment.

My simple point is that you might be better served by worrying about your own relationships, and let them live their own personal lives.

 

[Warrior]

No, because if she must be obeyed then you won't be doing anything in opposition to her wishes.

What EvilTOJ said. SWMBO isn't meant literally, though I wouldn't want my spouse to "mind her own business." Our marriage has lasted over thirty years, happily so, and we have always taken an active interest in each other; otherwise it seems to me you have more a roommate than a relationship. Now, by active interest, I will point out she doesn't enjoy beer or brewing -- but she's willing to listen to me talk about it and to put up with a kitchen disaster from time to time.

Rick

I agree with what you're saying. I'm married almost 30 years also and she has put up with my brewing and drinking over the years. I don't get the SWMBO phrase becuase I like to refer to it as SWMBPO She whom must be pissed off, because I tend to piss her off a lot. But then she can do the same to me, oh well forgive and forget that's how you stay together all those years.

 

[brauhaus]

i never looked at SWMBO in that light... My wife supports all of my hobbies and altho not a beer drinker I know she admires what I do...

There are times when my wife must be obeyed, after all she is pregnant so I try to keep her happy but all in all we each have our own "thing" so meh, whatever floats your boat.

 

[Brewer3401]

i never looked at SWMBO in that light... My wife supports all of my hobbies and altho not a beer drinker I know she admires what I do...

There are times when my wife must be obeyed, after all she is pregnant so I try to keep her happy but all in all we each have our own "thing" so meh, whatever floats your boat.

Hey, who got her pregnant, you prick

My SWMBO is the same. As long as we get the work out, we're real good.

 

[Schlenkerla]

My SWMBO wants balance. Too much brewing and its ot-oh.... She OK with it as long as the priority stuff is taken care of week to week.

Rain comes, no mowing occurs on Tuesday, work late on Wednesday. HB club meeting on Thursday. Date night on Friday... guess I gotta mow on Saturday, might brew on Sunday...

If I blow off responsibilities my spouse will be pissed off.
To me SWMBO - SICB. Someone Who Must Be Obeyed - So I Can Brew.

Tongue in cheek. SWMBO gets aggravated at me for other crap too like I do for her BS.

I try not to make waves since I'd rather not argue. Sometimes it not really worth the hassle. She supports 90% of what I w/o issue. However pushing buttons can be fun if it doesn't get too serious.

Again SWMBO is tongue in cheek. Just like when I call her $hithead!

 

[98EXL]

My big thing is beer, hers is tennis

We spend the same amount of time doing both. Sometimes we share, sometimes we don't. I think what made me realize that my SWMBO rocks is she said "If you didn't drink great beer, we'd been effed after the first month" My response was the same thing about football, and the list goes on and on and on.

Point is from my relationship is "baby gets what baby wants" If I want something, and I seldom am that against what she is already thinking, I get to say "nah" and we work something out.

Like most of us have said, if her 'role' of the evening is SWMBO: GIGGITY!

I also see your buddy's SWMBO point of view...and to that, eff it, who cares, you aren't screwing around the garage with your buddy's SWMBO, your with your buddy....

And to the wonderful women who responded in this thread, I do believe that you gals represent a good amount of us mens SWMBO's. Even the SWMBO's who don't like beer still seem like awesome gals (I mean, christ, they put up with us HBT'ers )

 

[brauhaus]

I also see your buddy's SWMBO point of view...and to that, eff it, who cares, you aren't screwing around the garage with your buddy's SWMBO, your with your buddy....

right on.

I usually tend to blown someone off esp when they start telling me that beer, brewing beer and loving beer is a waste of time.... seriously I could think of millions of ways to waste time, brewing isn't one of them, watching the "Sex in the City" movie is a huge waste of time...

just my opinion.

 

[kornkob]

Dr Kornkob has nothing to add to the conversation as EvilT has already covered my points.

EvilT: Grasshopper, you are now ready to walk the earth. Go forth and share the wisdom.

: )

 

[Schlenkerla]

right on.

I usually tend to blown someone off esp when they start telling me that beer, brewing beer and loving beer is a waste of time.... seriously I could think of millions of ways to waste time, brewing isn't one of them, watching the "Sex in the City" movie is a huge waste of time...

just my opinion.

I've been told by somebody elses SWMBO; "You only brew so you have an excuse to drink." I said, "Damned Right!!!"


Why on earth would I brew if I didn't intend to drink it??

 

[vtchuck]

We've been married for 35 years... feels like 40 with the wind chill.. and she has tolerated all my "hobbies" and obsessions with generally good humor and grace... be it brewing, bicycles, radio-controlled vehicles, computers, NY Giants, Red Sox, etc...

She's not a big beer fan, but I keep a keg of Apfelwein for her. I may not always obey, but I do try to keep her happy


Just my $0.02