I'm answering this one because I think this is a generally interesting question that shouldn't be limited to whale hunters.
Engaged.
We enjoy beer together. I had started getting into beer (basically by buying random Stone/DFH stuff instead of SA/Newcastle at BevMo) around the time we started dating, and so we started going to beer festivals and things together. We started trading at the same time (when we lived apart) and have basically been into beer at similar levels for our entire relationship.
We didn't used to have a budget, but we do now, though it's a very soft cap, more of a "try to only spend this much" sort of thing. I honestly think that this is the way to do it when you're not actually constrained by money, just keep in mind that it'll fluctuate month-to-month and try to seriously prioritize your spending.
Thinking about it this way is why I'm doing a lot less trading, a lot less buying of random releases, but the same amount of ordering from Belgium. A local keg costs $1.25 a pint and I enjoy it just as much as pretty much whatever I'd pay $5 for off the shelf, but good gueuze is irreplaceable. Similarly, a $6 bottle of BCBS is just as good as whatever-the-**** BA stout would cost me $50 to trade for, so why do it?
Kinda. Our last two big vacations both hit Belgium prominently, but since we both love the area it's not a big issue. We'll be going back (briefly) for our honeymoon too. But small trips don't necessarily need to be about beer, though we'll usually try to do some fun beer stuff while we're there.