the old ball and chain

[Rosie75]

So the wife told me today that I don't need to drink beer every time I brew. Wtf, isn't this part of the brewers code, lol, anyway ended up a fight

 

[m_c_zero]

Seems to be a recurring theme around here unfortunately...

 

[g-love]

No offense to you and i'm in no way judging your relationship, but I (personally) cannot imagine living with someone who "tells" me anything. I see this kind of thing popping up a lot on hbt.

If I want to drink, I drink. If I want to buy something, I buy it. If I want to go somewhere, I go. The thing is, I extend those same freedoms to my girl.

I see those types of comments made between significant others as a form of passive control and i'm not really into that, from either side.

Just my $.02.

 

[Darwin18]

So the wife told me today that I don't need to drink beer every time I brew. Wtf, isn't this part of the brewers code, lol, anyway ended up a fight

Did you injure yourself or damage your property? Were you pretty much useless for the rest of the day, following brewing?

Instead of talking to us you should be talking to her about this.

 

[benco]

no offense to you and i'm in no way judging your relationship, but i (personally) cannot imagine living with someone who "tells" me anything. I see this kind of thing popping up a lot on hbt.

If i want to drink, i drink. If i want to buy something, i buy it. If i want to go somewhere, i go. The thing is, i extend those same freedoms to my girl.

I see those types of comments made between significant others as a form of passive control and i'm not really into that, from either side.

Just my $.02.

+1

 

[half_whit]

Did you injure yourself or damage your property? Were you pretty much useless for the rest of the day, following brewing?

Instead of talking to us you should be talking to her about this.

+1 to this. I'd even go one step further and say talk *with* her about it. Seems to me if it's starting arguments, it's worth the time.

Probably just a sign of my youth, but I could never imagine thinking of my lady as a ball and chain. ...do nag som'n fierce though don't they! Everyone's gotta vent sometimes!

 

[JonM]

Time to start smoking cigars while brewing.

 

[stpug]

I think your wife is absolutely correct, you don't NEED to..... hopefully, you just WANT to.

Seriously though, I usually brew starting early in the morning and am finished a bit after noon. I can't recall a time I was drinking beer before finishing on these brew days - coffee, yes, but not beer. I have also done a batch or two in the late evening and I'm sure I was drinking some brew during those sessions; but not so much that I didn't have my wits about me.

 

[OrdinaryAvgGuy]

No offense to you and i'm in no way judging your relationship, but I (personally) cannot imagine living with someone who "tells" me anything. I see this kind of thing popping up a lot on hbt.

If I want to drink, I drink. If I want to buy something, I buy it. If I want to go somewhere, I go. The thing is, I extend those same freedoms to my girl.

I see those types of comments made between significant others as a form of passive control and i'm not really into that, from either side.

Just my $.02.

Been living with my wife 9 years now, married just a few months.

After saying "I do" I without a doubt, noticed the slow constrictor like control tactics begin to emerge.

I was warned by many about such behavior so I decided to nip it in the bud. Every time she attempted to control me, I tell her "stop trying to control me, I am capable of thinking and making decisions on my own."

Call me an a$$hole but I have no problem calling her out no matter where we are - in public, around family, around friends. She tried to bark authoritative commands at me once in front of her family and I quickly made an a$$ out of both of us. Hasn't happened since...

While I'm not perfect by any means, I never command her to do anything, especially in front of others. If I don't do it, you won't do it - it's mutual. If I want a beer, I don't yell "Hey woman, how bout getting me a brew" I'll walk to the fridge and get it myself.

There are however some instances where I give in because its not worth it. "Honey, can you not wear that ugly sweater out tonight" "okkkkay, yes dear...."

 

[kblankenship11]

No offense to you and i'm in no way judging your relationship, but I (personally) cannot imagine living with someone who "tells" me anything. I see this kind of thing popping up a lot on hbt.

If I want to drink, I drink. If I want to buy something, I buy it. If I want to go somewhere, I go. The thing is, I extend those same freedoms to my girl.

I see those types of comments made between significant others as a form of passive control and i'm not really into that, from either side.

Just my $.02.

Maybe we are just lucky but my relationship is the same. If i wanna drink a beer, smoke a cigar and piss of my back porch while I brew I can (although she'll probably roll her eyes at me...) If my girlfriend wants to go to yoga instead of watching a playoff game with me she can. If she demands something ridiculous to me I just laugh, same with her. If its a reasonable request we always accommodate eachother. That's the way its always been and we never argue.

 

[Glynn]

Seriously though, I usually brew starting early in the morning and am finished a bit after noon. I can't recall a time I was drinking beer before finishing on these brew days - coffee, yes, but not beer. I have also done a batch or two in the late evening and I'm sure I was drinking some brew during those sessions; but not so much that I didn't have my wits about me.

Same here. I always do my brewing on a Monday mornings early cus its the only day my wife goes into work and then i have to pick up the kid at school. but you better believe i pop one after all that.

 

[half_whit]

Same here. I always do my brewing on a Monday mornings early cus its the only day my wife goes into work and then i have to pick up the kid at school. but you better believe i pop one after all that.

Fridays! I'm off of work and the lady is running around working oddjobs. That's the day I make a quick run to the homebrew shop, wear PJ's all day, scratch myself a whole bunch and brew. I ALWAYS drink when I brew, and it's usually a homebrew (if there are any left/ready). I feel like it makes me more "one with the beer" (makes over-dramatic meditation gesture)

Man...the day she came home and caught me brewing and dancing in pijamas to Celtic rock while drinking a homebrew. That was...well, I definitely got an "eye roll" for that one

 

[JohnRoss]

I don't claim to have all the answers to a happy marriage, but I do have 48 years of experience. Common courtesy and mutual respect are two of the most important things in any relationship. If you can develop those basic living (loving) skills, attitude falls to the waysiide. Don't seek comfort here, seek it with the one you love. But YMMV.

JW

 

[Glynn]

That's the day I wear PJ's all day, scratch myself a whole bunch and brew.

Is that how you harvest your yeast

 

[forstmeister]

So the wife told me today that I don't need to drink beer every time I brew. Wtf, isn't this part of the brewers code, lol, anyway ended up a fight

Are you brewing every day? Or early in the morning? I usually brew starting around 9:00 a.m. but don't open a beer until at least noon. I am too tired to start drinking that early and I have 4 kids running around the house with me. I at least try to be respectable in front of our kids :cross:

But I only brew once or twice a month. If my wife told me that I shouldn't have a beer while doing it, I probably wouldn't even dignify that with a response. We have been married for 11 years and I put up with my share of crap, but I usually pick and choose when I want to engage in a fight.

 

[PackerfaninSanDiego]

So the wife told me today that I don't need to drink beer every time I brew. Wtf, isn't this part of the brewers code, lol, anyway ended up a fight

Show us the "Brewer's Code"....why bring your marriage issues to this type of forum? You may get better answers if you ask bring this issue up with your mom or mom-n-law. So whatelse does your wife not allow you to do?

 

[Darwin18]

Same here. I always do my brewing on a Monday mornings early cus its the only day my wife goes into work and then i have to pick up the kid at school. but you better believe i pop one after all that.

That sounds very similar to my usual brew day. I'll usually get up around 7:30 on Saturday morning, get the coffee started, and then get set up and heat up the strike water. My goal is to mash in before my wife wakes up. I like getting it done earlier in the day so that I have the rest of the afternoon/evening to loaf around.

 

[Homercidal]

Nothing like getting expert marriage advice from an internet beermaking forum, from people who you don't know, and who don't know you...

 

[m_c_zero]

Hey, it's either us or $200/hr for some guy/gal who you don't know and doesn't know you...

 

[OrdinaryAvgGuy]

Hey, it's either us or $200/hr for some guy/gal who you don't know and doesn't know you...

Sorry MC Zero, resorting to prostitution is not going to solve any problems.

 

[m_c_zero]

Sorry MC Zero, resorting to prostitution is not going to solve any problems.

Haha. Don't knock it until you try it!