So, My GF has BV

[onthekeg]

OP, my ex cheated on me before we got married and after. They don't change. Depends if you want an open relationship or not.

 

[rhamilton]

Once a ho, always a ho.

 

[chainsmoke]

.... BTW, it is possible to get it from hot tubs..I consulted her mother(who is a doctor) Hot tubs generally don't have enough chlorine in them to rid the water of bacteria..it's just a breeding ground for nasty ****.

haha, you called the mom? That must have been a fun call. When I answer the phone and it's my mother in law I play hot potato with the phone and chuck it to my wife.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Sorry to hear bro. Something I have learned in these situations is the cheated-upon party, by the time they have confirmation, have made up their minds about what they are going to do before they ask advice. All advice-givers are just muddying the water.

All I will say is you were suspicious enough to think it might have been another guy when you out of town... and THEN later on she kisses another guy as if by prophecy. Am I wrong in assuming she had been distant and/or things had been less rosey in the past couple months?... I can finish that thought, or not, your call. Best of luck to you, bro.

 

[WildGingerBrewing]

OP, my ex cheated on me before we got married and after. They don't change. Depends if you want an open relationship or not.

This^^^^^^^^^^^^^ but she's fat and not very happy now, so I win!!!

I like the way you think...

Me too

Once a ho, always a ho.

This^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^

 

[hamiltont]

The wife of a good friend of mine went "out with the girls" a week or so before their wedding. Another friend & I happened upon her that night while we were out & about. She was definitely not thinking wedding the last we saw her. They got married & then divorced due to her need for "something different". Unfortunately that was after having 3 kids. It went on for years but finally was enough for my friend & he initiated the proceedings. I can tell ya more stories but the best advice I can offer based on my observations. RUN!

 

[Weizer]

My main problem is that I care too much...and I don't give in/up easily. I moved here from san diego for her(she got a good job) and I've had regrets of leaving since I've been up here.

I had a job I liked, and had just gotten a promotion...and I had cheap ass rent and my roomate was chill..PLUS I lived 15 minutes from the beach. I had everything, except her and I'm starting to feel like I made a huge mistake, throwing my life away just to be **** on. I don't wanna give up on our relationship though, because of those reasons.

Pretty awful situation that I got myself into. Now I'm contemplating whether or not she even deserves a measly rose for valentines day. I ****ing hate this "holiday" as it is..and this gives me a reason to not spend my money lol.

BUT
I did just keg my fresh batch of 7% abv bavarian hefeweizen today...so after all is said and done, my day will end well

 

[beersteiner2345]

So leave her and move to San Diego again.

After you bang one (or all) of her hot friends.

 

[onthekeg]

My main problem is that I care too much...and I don't give in/up easily. I moved here from san diego for her(she got a good job) and I've had regrets of leaving since I've been up here.

I had a job I liked, and had just gotten a promotion...and I had cheap ass rent and my roomate was chill..PLUS I lived 15 minutes from the beach. I had everything, except her and I'm starting to feel like I made a huge mistake, throwing my life away just to be **** on. I don't wanna give up on our relationship though, because of those reasons.

Pretty awful situation that I got myself into. Now I'm contemplating whether or not she even deserves a measly rose for valentines day. I ****ing hate this "holiday" as it is..and this gives me a reason to not spend my money lol.

BUT
I did just keg my fresh batch of 7% abv bavarian hefeweizen today...so after all is said and done, my day will end well

So you have your mind made up. The hard part is done, time to clean up the carcasses and get back to SD.
Been there Bud. It's not easy, but you will always regret what you didn't do. 10 years from now with a kid or two it will be the same if you stay here.

 

[udt89]

I read one post you made and saw the word regret. You seem young enough to correct that.

Do it before you're 50 thinking "what if?"

 

[Fennis]

It sounds like she doesn't have all the partying out of her system, maybe she never will. Trust and loyalty are very important in a relationship as well as communication. She was open about cheating on you, but that would end it for me. You need to be with someone you can trust. You can try to just push this incident away and "forget" about it, but you know its always going to be there in your mind when you leave on a business trip or are apart for a weekend. Her excuse is very immature and foolish. It sounds like she still needs to grow up, and you are ready for someone a little more grown up and ready to commit. She doesn't sound like the one. In your situation, I'd pack my bags and head back to SD. As others said, if she is going to get drunk and fool around with random guys while she is with you now, what will stop her from doing it again? She obviously isn't ready for a serious relationship and you are...so leave before you get hurt even more.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Im going to make an analogy. You are playing hold'em poker, and your hand is Ace King, suited. Best hand in the game. So you ante up. The flop comes and it is 8 8 9, off-suit. Your excellent hand just became a crap hand. You cant get a straight, cant get a flush, and if someone has an 8 in their hand you are more or less toast. Do you throw good money after bad or do you fold? You would fold, right?

Same thing in life and relationships...

 

[Lgaddy44]

You're young, enjoy it. Have fun and play the field. The person you are today, and the person you're looking for now, likely will be someone very different in even a couple years. Take the time to meet people and learn what you can from your experiences. Your current situation is far from ideal, but it's not the end of the world. Focus on yourself for a while and try to move on.

Good luck!

 

[Pubwilson]

The wife of a good friend of mine went "out with the girls" a week or so before their wedding. Another friend & I happened upon her that night while we were out & about. She was definitely not thinking wedding the last we saw her. They got married & then divorced due to her need for "something different". Unfortunately that was after having 3 kids. It went on for years but finally was enough for my friend & he initiated the proceedings. I can tell ya more stories but the best advice I can offer based on my observations. RUN!

This story is suspect....Your buddy's soon-to-be wife is doing some shady stuff and you catch her or at least see her, then (I assume cause you didn't specify) you say nothing to him. He marries and divorces, then you come here giving advice, telling this guy to "RUN". Maybe your buddy would have been better off if you'd have given him that advice!

 

[hamiltont]

This story is suspect....Your buddy's soon-to-be wife is doing some shady stuff and you catch her or at least see her, then (I assume cause you didn't specify) you say nothing to him. He marries and divorces, then you come here giving advice, telling this guy to "RUN". Maybe your buddy would have been better off if you'd have given him that advice!

Suspect? Hardly not, He was informed & went ahead anyway.....

 

[aiptasia]

Cheating is a sign that something isn't going right in the relationship. Either something isn't being fulfilled or someone is unhappy. The trust factor is broken. You aren't married, and it's likely that she'll be a repeat **** offender.

If she's that easy that she'll hook up with someone while dating you, then you need to have the self respect to end it. You know you deserve better than that (everyone does). See if you can re-attach to the job back in SD and find a new place down there. You're young and you'll be fine.

BTW, there was a very pretty single emo girl working at Stone Brewing giving the brewery tours. Single, emo, pretty, female, brewer. Hot.

 

[Bernie Brewer]

I have never heard of BV, so I did like you said and googled it. The #1 hit clearly stated that ANY woman can get it, and the causes are not fully understood. And though I was too lazy to read more than the first 20 posts, I would say let it go.

 

[weirdboy]

Im going to make an analogy. You are playing hold'em poker, and your hand is Ace King, suited. Best hand in the game.

How would you like to play in my poker game? I will keep an open seat for you.

 

[bob1852]

but its still the principal ya know?

Wait, she slept with the head of school?

 

[CGVT]

You're 24. Move on.

That love **** will come and go throughout your life. Don't let it screw you up now.

 

[iijakii]

BV from a hot tub is no big deal. I once got gonorrhea from a tractor seat.

 

[CthulhuDreaming]

Im going to make an analogy. You are playing hold'em poker, and your hand is Ace King, suited. Best hand in the game.

14th best hand in the game.

So you ante up.

Ummm, what? You mean raise, I hope.

The flop comes and it is 8 8 9, off-suit. Your excellent hand just became a crap hand. You cant get a straight, cant get a flush, and if someone has an 8 in their hand you are more or less toast. Do you throw good money after bad or do you fold? You would fold, right?

No, I bet because you probably missed that craptastic flop as well - and if you actually have something, those 8's are just as scary to you.

You new at poker or something?

 

[praetoriv]

I wonder how the bacteria is transferd in a hot tub. Shouldn't the boil kill off bad bacteria?

 

[Marlowefire]

http://www.cdc.gov/std/bv/stdfact-bacterial-vaginosis.htm
The CDC says it can't happen from swimming pools or hot tubs but other places say it can?

 

[CthulhuDreaming]

http://www.cdc.gov/std/bv/stdfact-bacterial-vaginosis.htm
The CDC says it can't happen from swimming pools or hot tubs but other places say it can?

I'd hazard a guess that it can't happen from a properly treated pool or tub. Fail to keep up on water testing and treatment... all bets are off.

 

[D0ug]

I wonder how the bacteria is transferd in a hot tub. Shouldn't the boil kill off bad bacteria?

Hot tubs don't boil, recommended max safe temp is 104*F, a great temp for growing all kinds of shyght.

OP: As many have said, it maybe a sign to cut your losses. If the hard work your putting in is convincing yourself, or them, that this is working then it's not.

I did that over and over and it was always a mess. This is a bit like smoking cigarettes (hopefully this comes off better than the poker metaphor) but the longer you keep doing it, the harder it will be to stop, and if you push it and force through to the point where you have had kids, then not only is it a mess for you, but a mess for some innocent people who you love dearly.

There are plenty of stable, trustworthy, hot, smart, etc... women out there. You can find a better match.

Getting sh!t face drunk is not an excuse. Make clean break and start fresh. As Revvy likes to say, time heals all things.

Sorry to hear about your situation. I'll get off my soap box now.

 

[PintoBean]

"A healthy vagina normally contains many microorganisms; some of the common ones are Lactobacillus crispatus and Lactobacillus jensenii."

Lacto, eh? Got some new ideas for my next wild beer

 

[passedpawn]

"A healthy vagina normally contains many microorganisms; some of the common ones are Lactobacillus crispatus and Lactobacillus jensenii."

Lacto, eh? Got some new ideas for my next wild beer

It's been done (seriously).

 

[PintoBean]

It's been done (seriously).

I don't even want to know, lol, ok, I do

 

[onthekeg]

It was just God's way of telling you she was making out with another guy when you were gone.