Wow. Really? Same with Primary? Does longer mean better tasting? I feel like I have to bang bang batches out. It's ok if they sit? Thanks for your feedback.
A lot of folks don't secondary anymore - they say it's because of oxidation or infection risk, but it's really because they're all lazy

. If you pull your beer off primary within a month or so (depending on gravity and a whole host of other factors) you shouldn't have to worry about autolysis of the yeast. You can clear a beer out pretty well without racking.
As far as banging it out, the best tool you have is your hydrometer. Take a reading every few days once you think it's done. Once the reading stabilizes, then you can rack or bottle. Don't do it on the calendar - the yeast knows what it's going to do, and it doesn't follow a clock (e.g. 1 week primary, 2 week secondary on most kits is BS, but it's simpler for a new brewer).
As for your other question, if you don't get to bottling for a few weeks it's ok. For a longer aged beer, you want to rack to a carboy that isn't oxygen permeable. Many buckets are, so your beer could eventually oxidize on you if you leave it in the bucket long enough.
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