first.... add the water to the mash tun, then add grain and mix well.
second, use what ever cheap honey you want. you won't get any flavor from it as it's simply there to boost the ABV. honey added at flame out will be pasteurized and sanitized.
third. CONGRATS on making the jump to All Grain. once you brew a couple you'll wonder why you waited as long as you did.
Thanks MM,
you mentioned that mash time is more related to conversion. Do you take periodic gravity readings of the resting mash to determine the conversion factor you are looking for?