My name is Deprecated and I have a problem...

[deprecated]

Well, not anymore!

My problem was that I was on a 4 month hiatus from home brewing while working through a divorce after 18 years of marriage. All done now and in the last 2 weeks I've brewed 20 gallons (wheat, milk stout, pale ale and smoked porter).

If any of you ever have to go through the same thing, keep your head up and know that things DO get better.

Only other advice I can give is do your best to keep it amicable and remember that it doesn't take anymore time or energy to speak kindly to someone than it does to speak in a hateful/spiteful manner!

 

[Jakemo]

Cheers for being positive and constructive. I can't imagine any part of that was easy. But on the bright side, BEER!!!!!!

 

[knotquiteawake]

remember that it doesn't take anymore time or energy to speak kindly to someone than it does to speak in a hateful/spiteful manner!

if more people followed that advice there might be fewer divorces in the first place (not to imply that that would have saved your particular marriage... just a general statement from what I've seen in other people's marriage).

 

[Homercidal]

Good advice, and I wish the people I knew would have been that thoughtful when they went through it. Retirement age people acting like little kids...

Anyway! Welcome back!

 

[Bernie Brewer]

Well, not anymore!

My problem was that I was on a 4 month hiatus from home brewing while working through a divorce after 18 years of marriage. All done now and in the last 2 weeks I've brewed 20 gallons (wheat, milk stout, pale ale and smoked porter).

If any of you ever have to go through the same thing, keep your head up and know that things DO get better.

Only other advice I can give is do your best to keep it amicable and remember that it doesn't take anymore time or energy to speak kindly to someone than it does to speak in a hateful/spiteful manner!

Good for you! I was also divorced after 18 years, and I would like reiterate everything you said. Things DO get better. and it is soooo important to keep it amicable. This is especially true, but not limited to, if you have kids involved. I don't care what your ex-does or says behind your back. Anything you do or say will only make it worse. It is like throwing gas on a fire. It is up to you to take the high road- you will be glad you did.

 

[Airborneguy]

Mine was only after two years. Thank god because it was the worst two years of my life, dumbest decision ever (the marriage in general). But, in the long run, I never would have met my current wife if I didn't go through that one, so I'm glad it all happened in the end.

My previous wife hated my brewing and forced me to stop. My current wife actually got me back into it one day with a simple "Why did you stop? That sounds like a cool hobby."

Best of luck in your new life and brewing!

 

[Guidry]

Been there and through it. My attorney gave me one (and only one) good piece of advice. Instead of speaking to your "soon-to-be-ex" during process, communicate in WRITING. You will always think things through more if you have to write it down. Speaking (or worse) is often based too much on the spur of the moment emotions. I've found this advice to be helpful in other aspects of life since then also.