Husband complaining about my Home Brewing.

[MindenMan]

There are individuals that win National competitions, against/with commercially produced beers and win. So, the idea of a home brewer not being able to brew "great beers", is just ridiculous. Period. Guys like Jamil and John started out as home brewers, and are still considered gurus when it comes to beer and ales.
Winning a competition didn't fan my ego at all, it really humbled me when I considered the amount of meticulous steps that have to be made to consistently produce great beers, over and over. Even though I don't drink BMC beers, they have my ultimate respect, as producing lighter style beers millions of gallons in a row, exactly the same, decade after decade, takes incredible dedication and talent.

 

[jhoneycutt]

There are individuals that win National competitions, against/with commercially produced beers and win. So, the idea of a home brewer not being able to brew "great beers", is just ridiculous. Period. Guys like Jamil and John started out as home brewers, and are still considered gurus when it comes to beer and ales.
Winning a competition didn't fan my ego at all, it really humbled me when I considered the amount of meticulous steps that have to be made to consistently produce great beers, over and over. Even though I don't drink BMC beers, they have my ultimate respect, as producing lighter style beers millions of gallons in a row, exactly the same, decade after decade, takes incredible dedication and talent.

And lots of computer/automated control

 

[gratus fermentatio]

Your hubby complains about a good looking woman who brews beer at home?
Let's break this down:
Your hubby complains about a good looking woman who brews beer at home.
Good looking women & beer are what most of us men want.
Maybe he should RDWHAHB. (Relax, Don't Worry, Have A Home Brew.)
Regards, GF.

 

[betarhoalphadelta]

Men are simple. Much like dogs. I suggest you make it a Pavlovian thing. As a woman, you have certain... incentives... that you can offer that we men cannot.

Every time you brew, take him to bed afterwards... Eventually he'll come to love your brewing.

(And then he'll be okay with you putting in a fermentation fridge, which is what you need to make your beer as good as the store-bought stuff )

 

[NickTheGreat]

It seems to me that if your stuff was organized better, maybe he wouldn't complain so much?

I personally think he's a fool for whining about a beautiful woman brewing beer. But that's just me

 

[camilagss]

Men are simple. Much like dogs. I suggest you make it a Pavlovian thing. As a woman, you have certain... incentives... that you can offer that we men cannot.

Every time you brew, take him to bed afterwards... Eventually he'll come to love your brewing.

(And then he'll be okay with you putting in a fermentation fridge, which is what you need to make your beer as good as the store-bought stuff )

Hahaha, I REALLY want a fermentation fridge.

 

[camilagss]

It seems to me that if your stuff was organized better, maybe he wouldn't complain so much?

I personally think he's a fool for whining about a beautiful woman brewing beer. But that's just me

Yeah, I'm looking into other ways to organize it and keep the mess to a minimum. I also really like the idea of asking him to "help me out", even if it's just carrying the fermenter. Maybe that will make him feel like he's involved in it too.

On another note, he's not a fool at all. It's his space too and he has the right to complain about something that he doesn't like. He's handsome, sexy and awesome, we just have different views on this subject, perhaps. =D

 

[camilagss]

There are individuals that win National competitions, against/with commercially produced beers and win. So, the idea of a home brewer not being able to brew "great beers", is just ridiculous. Period. Guys like Jamil and John started out as home brewers, and are still considered gurus when it comes to beer and ales.
Winning a competition didn't fan my ego at all, it really humbled me when I considered the amount of meticulous steps that have to be made to consistently produce great beers, over and over. Even though I don't drink BMC beers, they have my ultimate respect, as producing lighter style beers millions of gallons in a row, exactly the same, decade after decade, takes incredible dedication and talent.

I could not agree more!

 

[DrunkleJon]

I know I am a little late to the party but he knew you were a homebrewer before you moved in right? So long as you continue to be respectful of the clutter of it all with your brewing he will adjust. Especially when he sees that it makes you happy. Methinks you need to get him brewing, or find a hobby that he can obsess over as much as we all do. He will adapt, or not. Your decision is how much of an issue to let it be. I am sure that explaining how much you enjoy the process of brewing, some time, and clutter consideration will win him over to the cause.

I do agree with your tact of finding the brew that he likes. You could always go with the simple, tried and true recipe of Apfelwein (Dry tart cider-wine). It is always a winner, and I haven't found anyone who does not like it, except for those that have overimbibed on it.

Also, Welcome.

 

[roastquake]

I'm with bwarbiany, make it worth his while to let you brew in peace. Or just show him all of these posts where people are calling him a fool

 

[MollyHatchet]

Tell him to take off the skirt and man up and enjoy a home brew!!!......


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[jhoneycutt]

I completely disagree with showing him a bunch of posts from people he you nor he has ever met calling him a fool. You could get the opposite of what you are looking for with him just saying nope it ain't happening in my house. That then could lead to other bigger issues that you don't want.

 

[neilpcraven]

I had the same space problem - bought three of these and never had a problem again!

You can get them from a bunch of places quite cheap - Americanas has them, for instance.

 

[Dan]

I completely disagree with showing him a bunch of posts from people he you nor he has ever met calling him a fool. You could get the opposite of what you are looking for with him just saying nope it ain't happening in my house. That then could lead to other bigger issues that you don't want.

And if something this insignificant puts a strain on your relationship. Find a new guy who you find just as exciting, handsome, and gorgeous. It shouldn't be a difficult task.. you're a very beautiful girl and if I may judge, have a lot to offer other than beauty. Beauty is swell. But you have more than physical appearance, you have soul.

There are plenty of guys who would like a girlfriend/wife that looks good, is open minded, loves beer, and is creative.

Putting the shoe on the other foot, I'd love to have found a one of a kind girl who enjoysbrewing, and life and love.

Don't sell yourself short. If this guy makes you do that. Find another.

-Disclaimer. I am divorced once and possibly working on the next. Take my advice for what it's worth.

 

[Brewski_59]

I'll throw my two cents in. First I'll have to agree with those who suggested becoming better organized. It's tough in an apartment. Now you did say he enjoys craft brews that are commercially made. Your going too need to make a style he likes. That will help.

 

[ChelisHubby]

I think if you can tidy it up and brew a beer he likes all will be very good. If more problems persist then it probably is not the beer hobby regardless of what is said. But if you can put the hobby aside for a few months you will more understanding of what he wants and weather or not you can deal with it.

 

[hoppyhoppyhippo]

I have a standing agreement with my SWMBO, she makes cheese, bakes, etc. and I brew, go cook crazy, etc. We work with each others interests.

 

[MindenMan]

I know I posted earlier, but I had a thought; if you were to make shelves that ran along the wall, all your stuff will be up off of the counters. It would still be in plain sight, but the counters would be freed up. I did see the shelving unit posted earlier, and if you have the floor space, you could put your gear on it, make a cover for it, and out of sight out of mind. I hope.

 

[camilagss]

I'll throw my two cents in. First I'll have to agree with those who suggested becoming better organized. It's tough in an apartment. Now you did say he enjoys craft brews that are commercially made. Your going too need to make a style he likes. That will help.

I'm on it!

 

[camilagss]

I know I posted earlier, but I had a thought; if you were to make shelves that ran along the wall, all your stuff will be up off of the counters. It would still be in plain sight, but the counters would be freed up. I did see the shelving unit posted earlier, and if you have the floor space, you could put your gear on it, make a cover for it, and out of sight out of mind. I hope.

Yeah, I really like the shelf idea. I'm currently investing in some new stuff like kegs and a mini-fridge, so I'm gonna try to negotiate with him about space and how to organize it so it'll cause less trouble around the house.

 

[Homercidal]

Some guys have it so good they have no idea how to handle it...

 

[Ridire]

I haven't read all of this but I might be the voice of dissent here. I love brewing but my biggest pet peeve is clutter. If the equipment is where I can see it every day, I'm probably not happy about it, either. If it is somewhere where I don't see it, and drop in guests don't see it ...then knock yourself out.

My wife and I have a very good relationship (married 12 years) and clutter is probably the biggest source of tension.


Sent from here, because that's where I am.

EDIT: looking back, I guess my view is not really the voice of dissent.

No two people will be without disagreements. If you're respectful and minimize the impact that upsets your significant other, you'll be fine.

 

[camilagss]

Some guys have it so good they have no idea how to handle it...

Thanks for that. It made me feel proud of myself.

 

[CreamyGoodness]

Update? Did he come around?

 

[mmb]

I'm with bwarbiany, make it worth his while to let you brew in peace. Or just show him all of these posts where people are calling him a fool

Yah, because when your wife rubs your nose in it and tells you you're wrong, that ALWAYS fixes it.

Some guys have it so good they have no idea how to handle it...

Men are stupid, need to complain about something, and supermodels get dumped by their boyfriends.

 

[kh54s10]

Last Activity:
05-05-2014 12:43 PM

I hope this doesn't have anything to do with this thread.....

 

[unionrdr]

I winder. Maybe they're getting divorced, or he made her quit all together?...

 

[Hello]

Last Activity:
05-05-2014 12:43 PM

I hope this doesn't have anything to do with this thread.....

Doubtful. People come and go all the time from websites. She posted in the drinking thread some after this thread. My guess is married life gets in the way and not everyone spends every day on forums. I wouldn't worry.

 

[Homercidal]

I found she has some recent untapped logins. Which could mean almost anything, I suppose.

People come and go from hobby sites all the time. It's not a big deal. I think she just decided to not post here anymore.

And with the way some guys behave around here I wouldn't blame her.

 

[plath]

She is still posting on instagram.