help me to clarify in a hurry - swmbo forcing me into stealth brewing mode

[bmeyer46]

See, I agree with you on the first paragraph, but not the second. Maybe we have a different idea of the honey-do list. If she has a few things around the house she wants done, then I don't see the problem with doing them and then brewing instead of leaving the list undone and brewing behind her back. Sure, if the honey do list is "build a second floor on the house" before you get to brew, that's a bit nuts but if it's "mow the lawn and put up a shelf in the utility room" that's not such a big thing to ask. And you make it sound like he's locked up in the house while she parties and does all the work. I don't remember him saying anything like that. I just see it as you do your share of the chores and then go ahead and brew. That is mutual agreement and compromise in my book.

I like the way you think...and you are exactly correct in splitting them up and getting them done faster...then free time for you both.

 

[pipapat]

so...swmbo has cut me off from brewing due to the ever growing honey-do list...what is a homebrewer to do? marathon brew session while she was out of town for the weekend a few weeks ago, and hiding carboys in the basement/garage! now, my saison is down to 1.005, so I figure time to bottle. unfortunately the beer is warm, and muddy looking, and she is having a girls night out tomorrow night. perfect timing to bottle if I could clarify my beer a little. so, any hope for bottling tomorrow? I have polyclar and gelatin on hand, but it would likely mean less than 12 hours before bottling. should I
a) bottle as-is, and screw clarity...it is a Saison after all
b) try gelatin or polyclar in the AM, and just rack/bottle tomorrow night
c) leave it in the carboy and wait for the next opportunity to do some stealth homebrewing/bottling

Morbo requires the weak human woman to make him a pot pie.

 

[Mischief_Brewing]

My suggestion, gelatin and if you don't have access to a refrigerator, a swamp cooler with a ton of salted icewater for 8 hours or more then bottle.

As for the grow a pair discussion, I fully saw the OP as tongue in cheek and humorous. But whatever...

 

[IrregularPulse]

Um, nooooo. It's called mutual agreement/understanding and compromise. You know, one of the most important aspects of a happy and healthy relationship.

This dude, and the guy in SWMBO says are not being met halfway. I mean, this OP has to hide his hobby and do a honey-do list while she's out with the girls. Yeah, sounds like a real healthy relationship to me

And this is you assuming that she too isn't doing anything herself. For all you know the OP hasn't done **** for 6 months while she's done all the chores and raised the 13 children. POint being none of us know his situation enough to judge him on it.
He asked a brewing question. Not for marital counseling.

 

[wildwest450]

He asked a brewing question. Not for marital counseling.

No he didn't. A brewing question would have been "I have 12 hours to bottle my saison, what can I do to clear it up?" That's a brewing question. Instead he went into detail about his home life that nobody needs/wants to know about.

That makes him open to a wide range of marital/brewing advice.

 

[JetSmooth]

I'd like to know whats on the honeydo list....?

Incorrect punctuation nonwithstanding, I agree. What's on the list that can be done quickly to appease the wife?

It's not about sacking up and defying the woman. I say sack up and do some work around the house so you can claim your rights as a man.

 

[Airborneguy]

What's a "honey do list"? thankfully my marriage doesn't include those, and everything still gets done (including tons of brewing).

 

[ChshreCat]

And this is you assuming that she too isn't doing anything herself. For all you know the OP hasn't done **** for 6 months while she's done all the chores and raised the 13 children. POint being none of us know his situation enough to judge him on it.

That's where I was going with this. Admittedly, my first thought was "What's on this honey-do list that he hasn't been able to do while he's had time to brew and ferment batches of beer in secret?" but I don't know enough about the situation to make a judgment either way. Just bugs me when the knee-jerk reaction of so many guys is that SWMBO's a ballbreaker for daring to ask him to do something other than brew beer.

 

[jpoder]

Thanks to those of you who offered BEER suggestions! I'm crash-chilliing now, but can only get it into the 50's...I'll bottle and let it settle out the rest of the way in the bottles.

I definitely think some of you should start a site homemarriagecouncelingtalk.com

I thought I'd be a little more entertaining than just asking "help me filter/clear my beer for bottling in 12 hours". I've found that the more entertaining posts usually get a better/faster response. I was right, but folks took it *way* off topic.

...honestly my wife is pretty good as far as putting up with / accepting my hobbies...even encouraging them. She buys me gift certificates to the LHBS for birthdays/fathers days and even went to the LHBS to have my copy of Radical Brewing signed by Randy Mosher when he came to town! I didn't even ask, or tell her this was happening...I was out of town on a business trip and she had read that he was coming in the LHBS newsletter and knew I had been reading his book.

I'd challenge ANY of your SWMBO's to a) name a homebrew book author b) know the name/location of your LHBS c) read the newsletter they send d) put all of that together and surprise you with your book signed when you got home from a business trip!

pretty great! now, she's not totally onboard...she doesn't drink (but is happy to be DD when we go out or even to beer fests!) and doesn't like the smell of beer at all, so I usually try to brew/bottle when she is not home. she REALLY doesn't like the smell, but as long as I clean up after myself, we're good to go...

As far as my need for current stealth brewing, I promised to finish a bathroom remodeling project before I brew any more batches. I've been really procrastinating this project. The weekend she was out of town I didn't feel like doing remodeling work, but did feel like brewing, so I did a stealth brewing session (two actually)... The bathroom is still not done, but the beer is...so it necessitates a stealth bottling session. of course, if I actually spent the time I spent brewing working on the bathroom, I'd be done by now, but that's besides the fact...

 

[bmeyer46]

most women....speaking strictly for myself, don't really care what you do ( lets be reasonable here ) after the things are done that are on the honey do list...if you just do them as they come up, there won't be a HUGE list, it will just be a couple things that can usually get done quickly...then you pull the ole " I'm glad WE got these things done...why don't you go treat yourself to a night out on the town with your friends, and I'll finish my homebrew, then we can spend tomorrow together." ...see how evil we can be!! LOL

 

[azscoob]

In light of this new insight to the stealth brewing reason, let the beer sit in the fermenter while you remodel the bathroom you have been slacking on. then bottle at your leisure. you gave her your word you would finish it before brewing and did not follow through. better hope she doesnt find out.

 

[Reno_eNVy]

I'd challenge ANY of your SWMBO's to a) name a homebrew book author b) know the name/location of your LHBS c) read the newsletter they send d) put all of that together and surprise you with your book signed when you got home from a business trip!

SWMBO not only bought me Randy Mosher's book for Christmas when I mentioned it once several months earlier, but in the last three years I've made only two batches without her assisting.

She also will surprise me every now by secretly looking at my BeerSmith, finding new recipes recently finished, and going to the LHBS (not sure if she knows the name/location, though ) to buy the ingredients.

Maybe we have a different idea of the honey-do list.

My bad, I guess I worded my last post a little weird. There's really no "honey-do" list to be done. Whenever one of us is home and the other is out working, the one at home will just clean up. We're both under the assumption that, "If I'm at home not making money, I should at least be helping out by cleaning." That way, if one of us wants to go out and have fun with friends the other can do as they please.

But when we're both home it's all about compromises and coming to agreements, without fighting, bickering, controlling, or either party being passive-aggressive.

 

[Beernip]

In light of this new insight to the stealth brewing reason, let the beer sit in the fermenter while you remodel the bathroom you have been slacking on. then bottle at your leisure. you gave her your word you would finish it before brewing and did not follow through. better hope she doesnt find out.

+1

Obviously your beer isn't quiet ready to bottle so why force it to meet timeline A when you can RDWHAHB, finish the remodel and bottle when it has cleared and is ready. Just change the date on the brewed on date on the carboy to before the agreement and say you've been holding off until the remodel was done.

So for the OP I'd say rack it to a secondary and let it clear naturally.

 

[bmeyer46]

SWMBO not only bought me Randy Mosher's book for Christmas when I mentioned it once several months earlier, but in the last three years I've made only two batches without her assisting.

She also will surprise me every now by secretly looking at my BeerSmith, finding new recipes recently finished, and going to the LHBS (not sure if she knows the name/location, though ) to buy the ingredients.



My bad, I guess I worded my last post a little weird. There's really no "honey-do" list to be done. Whenever one of us is home and the other is out working, the one at home will just clean up. We're both under the assumption that, "If I'm at home not making money, I should at least be helping out by cleaning." That way, if one of us wants to go out and have fun with friends the other can do as they please.

But when we're both home it's all about compromises and coming to agreements, without fighting, bickering, controlling, or either party being passive-aggressive.

You have a good marriage my friend!

 

[KCBrewer]

A picture says 1000 words.

So appropriate, and the best laugh I've had today. Hopefully the OP's situation doesn't get to that point though.

Seriously, my opinion on the matter is let the beer sit, finish your sh!t. It's not a matter of who wears the pants in the house. Well, it may be, but I'm not going to use that as a reason to decide what you should do since I know nothing about your marriage.

It doesn't sound like the beer is ready to bottle, and you know it, but you are rushing to do it because you have the opportunity. If you let it set, you have something to do (the bath remodel) to keep yourself busy while the beer clears.

The point is you win on both ends if you just leave it be and finish the bathroom. Good beer, happy wife. What more can you ask for?