Crappy Valentine's Day!

[BrunDog]

My wife does divorce mediation as her career. Absolutely better and less expensive than getting lawyers.

 

[betarhoalphadelta]

My wife does divorce mediation as her career. Absolutely better and less expensive than getting lawyers.

On Saturday I started doing research and came to the conclusion that because we're doing this amicably, that was best. At the same time a mutual friend who is an attorney was advising my wife that when it's amicable, mediation is best.

It's still going to be hard, because the living situation and money get really complicated as I make ~80%+ of our income... But it's better than an adversarial lawyer situation...

 

[SupervisingChildren]

Just saw this thread. Sorry to hear about you going through this. Hope the mediation works out well, and glad to hear that you're making plans to get out and do things you previously couldn't!

 

[Homercidal]

Sorry to hear, man. I truly hope you can separate amicably. I know several couples who tried, but were unable to do so. It seems most people have a hard time just letting things go, and letting things go.

 

[benco]

Sorry to hear this for the both of you and especially the children. Life must go on. Now I'm being nosey! How are things progressing?

 

[betarhoalphadelta]

Sorry to hear this for the both of you and especially the children. Life must go on. Now I'm being nosey! How are things progressing?

Well, actually. Still amicable, and with the exception on my mother-in-law, everyone has been reasonable.

Telling the eldest child tonight (8 yo), so that's going to be rough.

 

[mcspanner]

Well, actually. Still amicable, and with the exception on my mother-in-law, everyone has been reasonable.

Telling the eldest child tonight (8 yo), so that's going to be rough.

Aww man that's not going to be fun I bet. Good luck

 

[Auger]

Good luck man. Been there, although there was nothing amicable about mine. Good luck with the kids. My daughter is now 8, ex and I have been divorced for almost 4 years, and it still breaks my heart any time she asks "why can't you just come back to live with me and mommy?" I think she gets it at this point (I remarried this past summer), but it sounds like you both have the right attitude - do whatever is necessary to maintain the emotional health of the kids. Other than that, keep your head up, and the quicker things can work through to completion, the better.

 

[betarhoalphadelta]

Update... So far everything is going swimmingly... We're even going through monetary stuff without friction.

At the beginning when we were talking about dating other people, I was worried she'd get jealous. But even that has been OK so far.

I honestly think we'll salvage a friendship out of this

 

[bob1852]

At the beginning when we were talking about dating other people, I was worried she'd get jealous.

So she's already banging one of your friends?

I kid, I kid.

Good luck, and hope it stays amicable. And, most importantly, you're both happier...

 

[betarhoalphadelta]

6 months plus one day from filing.

I'm free!

 

[Punity]

Woot!

 

[JohnSand]

Good.
I missed this thread at first Brad, I'm sorry. I wish you and your family success and peace.
I'm a survivor of divorce and then a Really Bad Relationship. But I'm happy now, in a Really Good Relationship.