So I am trying to get together a list of what would be needed here.
1. I need a small control box, black preferred. I will be getting 1 EZboil, 1 probe, and probably need to be able to control a single pump. You should get all of the components that need to go in the box first, and then do some trial layouts, that allow adequate space for wiring, to get an idea how big the box needs to be. If you crowd the components too close together, you will kick yourself when you are doing the wiring.
2. I will add a 240 breaker to my panel and run it to a wall socket. So need to know what socket? Also will probably need a couple extension cords, from socket to control box, control box to element. The cheapest solution is to have your main power supply cord and element power cord hardwired into the control panel. That way you only need one plug on the end of the power supply cord, and one socket on the end of the element power cord. For the power supply, you will want your 240V 2-pole GFCI breaker in your main panel wired to a NEMA 14-30 receptacle wall socket. You then put a NEMA 14-30 plug on the end of your main power cord. For your element power cord you will need a NEMA L6-30 receptacle on the element end of the cord. You will need cable glands where the cords enter your control panel enclosure to provide strain relief and abrasion protection. You can use SOOW, SJOOW, SEOOW, or SJEOOW power cord. All the cords need to be 10AWG wire to handle 30A currents. The main power cord needs 4 conductors (Hot1, Hot2, Neutral and Ground), so you need 10/4 cable. The element cord only needs three conductors (Hot1, Hot2 and Ground), so this needs 10/3 cable.
3. Recommendations on element? Looking for a 5500 watt. TC clamp style. As Wizard linked, Bobby_M sells a very nice TC mount heating element. Bobby is also known to provide excellent customer service. Lower priced versions are available directly from China if you would rather go that route. PM @augiedoggy if you want information on where to order. Augie is also a great source for finding the lowest cost supplier for other components.
4. recommended probe. Not sure if you can do tc clamp or do a 1/2" NPT thread, 1.5" long probe? For the EZBoil the probe type MUST be an RTC PT-100. Probes with 1/2" NPT mountings are readily available. I don't know about TC mounts, but worst case you should be able to find a TC plate with 1/2" NPT female threading.
5. Which EZboil model do i need? Either will work. As Wizard pointed out, the DSPR300 gives you some extra capability, that you may or may not need/want, at a slight extra cost.
Thanks.