I bought an auto-siphon about one year ago and it took me two or three brews to figure out the kinks. After making a couple adjustments, even with the small leak at the seal I haven't had any more problems.
The first issue was I think similar to your experience and I had a very difficult time starting the siphon. In fact i mostly ended up "pumping" it to move beer which aerated the crap out of it! To fix this, I tried simply pinching the tubing near the racking cane with my fingers while pulling it to full extension before releasing the pinch and plunging to make sure I filled the tube almost completely. This has worked perfectly every time since then, even if air gets past the seal on the pull-out.
The second issue was that the tubing was oversized and I had a very hard time keeping the flow due to air collecting at the tubing connection. Ideally the tubing inner diameter should match the inner diameter of the siphon cane.
I honestly almost threw mine out after the first couple brews, but after trying these, I bought the mini version in addition to the 1/2 inch I already had!
I hope this helps in your case and good luck!