What I dont understand here is how you all have the exact same "ex" as my wife . . .
They had a wierd arangment she got railroaded into cuz her lawyer sucked but it was school down here then summers and holidays up there k-4, 5-9 it was school up there summers and holidays down here (did Imention my wife works?). we tried to get it changed so the kid didnt have to swtich schools and he fought it like hell. Here is the kicker . . .Her "ex" is a kindergarten teacher (dont even get me started on male kindergarten teachers) and would rather have the kid around when he is working all the time instead of when he has off and can actually spend some time with him?
He pulls the other BS too, made us drive through a snow storm to drop off the kid. We asked him to drop the kid off a day early or late to avoid it but he said no, do what normally takes 4 hours round trip took 10 (then he had the balls to get in my face . . .I'm 6ft, 245lbs, and have a sterotypical Irish temper . . . and we were alone. I didnt hit him but I think he could have posted a nice story in the shart your pants thread) 90% of the time he doesnt even drop the kid off or pick him up, he has the current wife (#3) do it for him #2 did it before that. He wont talk the the wife about anything so any communication has to go through what is now a 14 y/o boy (He's been doing that since the kid was in 5th grade). He even told the kid one time that even though the court order said it was time to come down that he didnt have to if he didnt want to. This was right about the time my 5 year old was born and had the 14 y/o (then 9y/o) convinced we had his brother because we didnt want him anymore and were doing nothing but partying when he wasnt around. To make matters worse her "ex" didnt even inform us they werent comming down to the meeting point (that 4 hour drive round trip) until we were at the meeting point . . . we had to get their local Sheriff involed and sat around for an additional 4hours to pick up the kid. Nothing like hanging out at a Burger King with an infant for 4 extra hours.
The good news is after a while the kids figure it out what is up and how is trying to slip it in who's arse. Last summer my wifes "Ex" schedualed their trip to Florida the week after the kid came down to our place and took his 2 step sisters, then proceded to call and send postcards every day. Near the end of thier 2 week trip I took him fishing and while we were out on the lake he was pretty quiet and all of a sudden looked at me and said "He knew I would be gone for those 2 weeks for the last 3 years . . ." and he left it at that.
4 more years and I wont ever have to see that SOB again until the kid gets married . . . and I already warned my wife that if he is coming to a Irish firemans kids wedding he probably doesnt stand a very good chance at having a good time