Why is recreational sex the first to go

[JesseRC]

Just had makeup sex last night. Find a way to get her to screw up somehow. On another note have you talked to her about it. She might just cum around...

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Just had makeup sex last night. Find a way to get her to screw up somehow. On another note have you talked to her about it. She might just cum around...

Yeah. We have talked about our altered state libido's. Best I got was "You are in your mid 30's shouldn't you be past your sexual prime already?" to which I responded, "Shouldn't you be starting yours".

After that, and several off topic twists and turns it only got worse. She's always been a little the head about the topic given her "conditioning" (nothing tragic mind you) and the act has always been frsutrating for her given the result of "cultural practices" but I have always strived to keep it interesting for her and always made a point to keep her as a focus rather than just a "wiggle and a moan". Not that doesn't happen on a rare occasion.

 

[EvilTOJ]

Dude, if you're screwing her makeup, you're doing it wrong. Or you're doing it really, REALLY right!

 

[Trubadour]

I have a 6 month old, and have only had sex once in the last month b/c her doctor gave her different birth control that she's never taken before, and she's been bleeding almost the entire time. Please don't suggest a towel -- I've tried. She's about to go in and get the UID, so hopefully that will change things.

I will say though that before the bleeding problem, it was a combination of her being tired, not happy with her body, and something about her always saying "when are you going to get a damn job!" (laid off = more homebrewing) :rockin:

 

[HenryHill]

It's not 'Recreational Sex', silly, it's 'Sport Fukking'!

 

[AnonyBrew]

I have a 6 month old, and have only had sex once in the last month b/c her doctor gave her different birth control that she's never taken before, and she's been bleeding almost the entire time. Please don't suggest a towel -- I've tried. She's about to go in and get the UID, so hopefully that will change things.

I will say though that before the bleeding problem, it was a combination of her being tired, not happy with her body, and something about her always saying "when are you going to get a damn job!" (laid off = more homebrewing) :rockin:

You must be my twin then. We'll have to meet up for a beer sometime, but we'd already know each others' stories.

 

[farmbrewernw]

My wife is working on her thesis, getting ready to graduate, and is applying for jobs, you know what that equals. Honestly we've never been rabbits but lately it's been pretty much very infrequent. I love my wife very very much so I can overlook it but I'm with the rest of you, it would be nice to have it more often.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

My wife is working on her thesis, getting ready to graduate, and is applying for jobs, you know what that equals. Honestly we've never been rabbits but lately it's been pretty much very infrequent. I love my wife very very much so I can overlook it but I'm with the rest of you, it would be nice to have it more often.

I'll concede that I have only once gotten it as much as I would like but, once in the last 4 months is a problem. With the first child, he's now 3 years old, there was a stage in her pregnancy where (tho I did not voice it) she wanted it more often than I did. Even then, I didn't pass on the opportunity.

I thought with the last pregnancy I'd get a taste of that again. Nope. I got 3 "visits" in 9 months. After birth, she made me wait 2 months.

 

[jmulligan]

...her doctor gave her different birth control that she's never taken before, and she's been bleeding almost the entire time.

Ok, this happened to me (I'm the girl), and believe me, WE don't like it either! Nothing makes you feel less desirable than being on the rag for a solid month. I, however, have at least three towels that are specifically designated for this sort of purpose, keep trying that line of thought and good luck.

And I have a few words of encouragement/advice for anyone's who's hard-up (excuse the pun) right now. Text your lady something naughty or tell her you took care of yourself while thinking about her or watching some racy video you guys made. That always gets me going, especially if he tells me in the middle of the day. I'm ready to go by the time I get home. I know this is tougher for those of you with kids.

 

[BobOscarBob]

Seriously! With the rate I get it, I only need 5-10 minutes, That even with me making a sandwich afterward!

Amen to that - turns out the only reason I got lucky the last time was a broken egg timer...

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

... or tell her you took care of yourself while thinking about her or watching some racy video you guys made.

Me: (see quote above)

Her: So, now that is done and you got no reason to complain anymore?

Me:

 

[jmulligan]

Ouch.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Ouch.

Didn't really happen but, all to often I get the "if you want it that bad we have a computer" bit.

In my defense, I don't even go to "those" places often.

And she'd NEVER concede to being photographed like that. Not even stills. She's no prude but is terrified that a file/video saved could end up in some boneyard or worse. We've been robbed once a long time ago and lost some toys which devastated her, we've been hacked once and lost some personal financial info so she'd never attempt to even risk that kind of thing.

I want my pre-marital neo-nympho back, that is all.

btw, nice to finally see a female perspective join the gripe session.

 

[Brutus Brewer]

after having children?

I mean honestly, it takes what 30 minutes to an hour out of ones "busy" life.

I do recognize that timing is a factor but, all too often I hear couples complain that they have no time for each other and that sex is minimal to gone.

And yet, these same people see something walk by and they are the first to dang near spooge themselves. Apparently, the desire is still there so, why is the time "given up"?

Before marriage, rabbits have a hard time keeping up. After marriage, there are still some places you haven't played in. Post children, even porcupines seem to have sex more often than do married couples.

Ohh, and I ask this on behalf of one of my "friends" issues. Ummm, really.


Seriously.

I thought recreational sex is what you had before you got married and had kids.

 

[JesseRC]

Wait, so she has been that way before, well then I think there's hope. How about watching something dirty. Not like full blown porno, but something. I still think talking about it in a non argumentative way should help. Maybe in a neutral setting. Someplace where she doesnt think your gonna jump her bones right away. You're just expressing your needs, I would think if she had some need, she'd want you to listen to her.

 

[Trubadour]

I, however, have at least three towels that are specifically designated for this sort of purpose, keep trying that line of thought and good luck.

You must be my twin then. We'll have to meet up for a beer sometime, but we'd already know each others' stories.

Let me know if you're ever in town. I like beer

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Wait, so she has been that way before, well then I think there's hope.

Yeah. She was neo-nympho 11 years ago. We "dated" for little more than a year prior. It was 8 years after marriage before the first was born.

And there are still some places in the house we haven't tried......

Depressing! I need a beer.

 

[IrregularPulse]

We were together 5 years before getting married. The first 2 were FILLED with sex, And it was good Do Everything Everywhere with Everything sex, now it's monthly at best, and almost routine. I try so hard to switch it up and try new things and try and do things "for" her and it's like she's reverted to a 12 year old..."eeww don't do that". For F's sake woman Grow up and let's be wild like we used to. This all happened before any kids were even thought about.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Wife and I had a "Cum to Geezus" sort of discussion about all this over the weekend. additionally, I had taken Friday off and managed to get very single one of her weekend chores done before she got home. that left her with nothing to do but play with the toddler thus she realized just how exhausting the simple act of keeping up with him can be and she admitted that doing that is much more of a workout than the house work (which can be done at a much slower pace).

Maybe the discussion coupled with her newfound enlightenment will mean something in the cumming days and months. I don;t expect rabbits but she knows I want more than an annual tune-up.

 

[IrregularPulse]

but she knows I want more than an annual tune-up.

Almost misread that!

Good luck. I suppose I could do all her chores, but then I'd be tried AND get no sex! Plus she is a teacher and gets home 2 hours before me everyday and only has 9 days of school left.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Almost misread that!

Good luck. I suppose I could do all her chores, but then I'd be tried AND get no sex! Plus she is a teacher and gets home 2 hours before me everyday and only has 9 days of school left.

Whoopsie-daisies. Ahem. Yeah, if that occured it'd be me that cuts her off! So, I definitely won't be letting her read this. Just in case she gets an idea.

I didn't do the chores in the hopes that I'd get a reward. I did those to prove a point that our child is more of a workout than any dishes or laundry and that those chores can be done quicker. That friday, I managed to sleep in till 10:00, got a beer buzz by noon (okay I got drunk), watched a movie, and still got all of the household chores done (laundry [washed folded/hung and put away], dishes, carpets vacuumed, dusting, bathroom cleaning) before I had to pick up the kids.

Regarding sex, I basically explained that she is going to have to make more of an effort and more often. And that I am okay with 3:00am on a worknight.

 

[IrregularPulse]

Regarding sex, I basically explained that she is going to have to make more of an effort and more often. And that I am okay with 3:00am on a worknight.

These are my favorites anyway, the nudge, Hey are you awake, or being awakening by a "service". I try that on her and maybe works 1/100 tries. I wake up with a hand down' my pants...Buddy I am AWAKE!!!

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

These are my favorites anyway, the nudge, Hey are you awake, or being awakening by a "service". I try that on her and maybe works 1/100 tries. I wake up with a hand down' my pants...Buddy I am AWAKE!!!

Ha. I've never been serviced while I was sleeping. And I have only gotten a couple rib nudges to show an interest. that was part of the discussion, that she has to do more to get things started because, like you, if I even think about waking her up for such a thing I'd have hell to pay.

I could be trying to wake her up because the roof is falling and she'd still bite a chunk offamybutt to tell me what and why so, theres no chance of me "nudging her ribs" to make my intentions known.

 

[david_42]

I could be trying to wake her up because the roof is falling and she'd still bite a chunk offamybutt to tell me what and why so

Substitute "the fence next to the house is on fire" and you'd have a true life experience for me and a prior GF. I did manage to get her awake enough to move the cars while I soaked down the wall near the fence. When the fire trucks arrived, I sent her back inside to get some clothes on. She went back to sleep!

 

[IrregularPulse]

Maybe it was this forum topic but I ended up being awake from 3am - about 4:30am last night!
























oh wait, it was because my son is teething and I no longer have ear drums. Darn! I was sooooo close!

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Maybe it was this forum topic but I ended up being awake from 3am - about 4:30am last night!
























oh wait, it was because my son is teething and I no longer have ear drums. Darn! I was sooooo close!

Ahhhhhh. Good times.

I have those kinda nights coming soon too. Brutal! With my first we tried everything. Eventually we found the Baby Anbesol but, apparently, dentists don't like it (even tho' IIRC it's ADA approved) because it supposedly toughens up the gums.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

I sent her back inside to get some clothes on. She went back to sleep!

I am guessing this is the reason she's the "prior". That is just insane! But, extremely familiar.

Wife and I were on a "working vacation". I was working, she was with me on "vacation". We were in a hotel. I woke up one night to find an odd , intense, orange glow coming from the window. When I got to it all I could see is the under construction, hotel across the street in a blaze. The heat was so intense I could feel it through the glass. I made a dash for the phone, hollered at the wife to get dressed, and had every intention of getting the f%ck outta that tinder box.

She got up, looked out the window, said "Ohh the fire trucks are already here" and went back to bed.

Geesh!

The next morning, looking up at the window from our room, you could see that the styrofoam insulation that backed the stucco finish of the hotel we stayed in had gotten so hot it began to melt and sag.

 

[Darwin18]

Want lots of sex with the wife and money to go take her out and get her in the mood?

Here's a novel idea. Don't have kids. It's not like its not common knowledge that having kids increases stress, decreases your money, and decreases the quality time you two can spend together. Alone.

 

[shecky]

Want lots of sex with the wife and money to go take her out and get her in the mood?

Here's a novel idea. Don't have kids. It's not like its not common knowledge that having kids increases stress, decreases your money, and decreases the quality time you two can spend together. Alone.

Yeah, great solution. I want kids, but I'd rather have sex and money, so let's skip the kids.

There are times when there's not enough sex in my life, but I'm sure as hell not pinning it on the kids. There are days when what you lack in sex you certainly make up for in the sheer joy of being with your kids.

Some of us just need to find ways to work the sex in more often.

 

[IrregularPulse]

Want lots of sex with the wife and money to go take her out and get her in the mood?

Here's a novel idea. Don't have kids. It's not like its not common knowledge that having kids increases stress, decreases your money, and decreases the quality time you two can spend together. Alone.

Yes obviously from someone without kids and doesn't want kids (nothing wrong with that, if you don't want them please don't have them).

But as much as I love sex and money, I'd take 15 minutes of my son climbing on me and talking his gibberish to me, giving me his "kisses" (read: eating my face) and smiling and screaming when he sees me walk in the door over it any day.


As far as the teething thing, yea he has 2 already and they weren't bad. We've been waiting for this night as the last week has been a drool fest. As tired as I am, his little dual tooth grin is hilarious.:rockin: