Why is recreational sex the first to go

[McKBrew]

I freaking get called out to sit "severe weather reserve" here in Chicago and you are back home tappin my wife? You jerk!

Even worse, you'll have to update your signature, because I drained Keg #2.

 

[The Pol]

Even worse, you'll have to update your signature, because I drained Keg #2.

Dammit! What was in Keg #2????!!

EDIT: OH ARE YOU FREAKING KIDDING ME!?!? I have nothing hoppy to place on tap, thanks home wrecker!

 

[McKBrew]

Dammit! What was in Keg #2????!!

Keg2- Orange/Cascade IAPA v2.0 (6.6%) (On Tap)

 

[The Pol]

You better have left some change in the tip jar!

FOR THE BEER, I know where you were going with that!

 

[Mutilated1]

Its because small children have a sex detector, and they can tell when you're getting some so they wake up to get you to turn the night light on, get them a glass of water, read them a story, check under the bed for monsters, etc... As long as you don't try and get some they will sleep through the night.

 

[BioBeing]

I have an issue with the title of this thread. Recreational sex stopped when we started trying to have kids. That was about 10 years ago. 3 kids later, nursing, co-sleeping, sick kids etc etc. we have really only started (as of about 6 months ago) having recreational sex again. We both missed it. Try to make time - it is worth it.

 

[EvilTOJ]

The Pol, MckBrew, how the hell am I supposed to answer the phone with you two cracking me up over here?

 

[Laughing_Gnome_Invisible]

Tell the missus that sex is slimming. Problem solved.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Tell the missus that sex is slimming. Problem solved.

Ha Ha.

Well, she isn't fat so.......

Uggg, maybe I'm the only one not getting any.

 

[ohiobrewtus]

Fortunatley I don't have this issue. :rockin:

 

[Aubie Stout]

Priorities. This is not an issue at our house. We have two kids, 9 & 11.

 

[shecky]

Ha Ha.

Well, she isn't fat so.......

Uggg, maybe I'm the only one not getting any.

You aren't the only one, don't worry. Can't say it never happens around here, but the inconsistency and frequency is alarming.

Been having trouble with our 6 yo lately so my wife says she can't switch away from that anger and frustration to feeling romantic and sexy. OK, fine, I understand that to an extent.

So last night, date night. Went to a concert. She loved it. Happiest I've seen her in some time. She was also lovey-dovey. Of course, this got my hopes up. A little romance, you know. After a 75-minute drive home, during which she mostly slept, I drove the babysitter home only to return to find my wife snoring away like a crazy person.

Before I drove the babysitter home, I said to my wife, "You'll be naked when I return." The scoff she gave me pissed me off.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Ha Ha.

Well, she isn't fat so.......

Uggg, maybe I'm the only one not getting any.

You aren't the only one, don't worry. Can't say it never happens around here, but the inconsistency and frequency is alarming.

Been having trouble with our 6 yo lately so my wife says she can't switch away from that anger and frustration to feeling romantic and sexy. OK, fine, I understand that to an extent.

So last night, date night. Went to a concert. She loved it. Happiest I've seen her in some time. She was also lovey-dovey. Of course, this got my hopes up. A little romance, you know. After a 75-minute drive home, during which she mostly slept, I drove the babysitter home only to return to find my wife snoring away like a crazy person.

Before I drove the babysitter home, I said to my wife, "You'll be naked when I return." The scoff she gave me pissed me off.

Now wait a minute........

She isn't a medium height, brunette, asian is she? Sounds just like MY wife!

Granted, we have a 4 month old but, he sleeps most of the time and sits and gurgles the rest. She spends most of the evening in the kitchen with him rinsing dishes and putting them in dishwasher. I spend the evening attending my 3 year old (exhausting), trying to involve him in whatever chores I have to do. Seh bathes the baby. I bathe the toddler. She heats dinner (we haven't "really cooked" since the Toddler was born) and I'll clean up after. Most times vice-versa.

The only household chores we do independently are week end laundry (her) and week end yard work/gardens (Me).

She's asleep by 8:30 and up by 2:00 for a 20 minute bottle feeding, of which the baby is asleep before he finishes the bottle. Me, I am up til 10:00 with the toddler (have tried earlier bed times and he just wakes up earlier the next morning).

Frustrating.

 

[shecky]

Pretty much the way things work around here, but my kids are old enough (6 and 4) that they require little in the way of work and they sleep through the night starting at 8 pm.

I don't have an infant to deal with and still .............. nuttin.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

I don't have an infant to deal with and still .............. nuttin.

I hear ya'. I guess what frustrates me most is I see the "infant" bit as a cop-out. She feeds him cereal at 7:00 and gives him a bath at 7:30, like clockwork. The rest of the time he sits in his bouncer or swing and gurgles at her, or I pick him up and carry him while also attending the toddler.

 

[JesseRC]

You aren't the only one, don't worry. Can't say it never happens around here, but the inconsistency and frequency is alarming.

Been having trouble with our 6 yo lately so my wife says she can't switch away from that anger and frustration to feeling romantic and sexy. OK, fine, I understand that to an extent.

So last night, date night. Went to a concert. She loved it. Happiest I've seen her in some time. She was also lovey-dovey. Of course, this got my hopes up. A little romance, you know. After a 75-minute drive home, during which she mostly slept, I drove the babysitter home only to return to find my wife snoring away like a crazy person.

Before I drove the babysitter home, I said to my wife, "You'll be naked when I return." The scoff she gave me pissed me off.

So what's wrong with sleepy sex, either she will wake up and or will just lie there, it's still a win /win for ya!

As for me, my swmbo has never turned me away or said not now, my only problem is that she always waits for me to initiate. Sure sometimes its mutual, but I've done some experimenting. If I don't initiate, it could be weeks for her to initiate it. Other than that, its never been an issue for us.

However I have been in relationships where they used it as a tool. I hate dem *******.

 

[IrregularPulse]

Ha Ha.

Well, she isn't fat so.......

Uggg, maybe I'm the only one not getting any.

Well you can come hang out at my house, we can sit on the porch and share our lack of sex stories! Bring some homebrew, it's gonna be a sobfest.

You can come to Shecky

Brings the kids, The wives and kids can sit inside and discuss how to keep us from sex and our hobbies.

 

[IrregularPulse]

I could be tried as balls and still be up for it. Probably because as soon as I am "done" I could pass out for the night. Unfortunately for SWMBO, after she is "done" it wakes her Wide the F up. So getting it at night never happens cause she can't sleep after ward. I get home at 6, sone is awake and stays so until his 9:30 bedtime. Usually have a beer/TV and off to bed. my only change is Saturday/Sunday afternoons while he's asleep....and who is home without yard work on weekends in the summer!

 

[JesseRC]

well there you go, beer usually causes swmbos to get tired and sleepy. Cut her off of the beer.

 

[IrregularPulse]

well there you go, beer usually causes swmbos to get tired and sleepy. Cut her off of the beer.

Actually the beer is for me. It helps me deal with the fact that I'm most likely not getting laid.

 

[furloaded]

You aren't the only one, don't worry. Can't say it never happens around here, but the inconsistency and frequency is alarming.

Been having trouble with our 6 yo lately so my wife says she can't switch away from that anger and frustration to feeling romantic and sexy. OK, fine, I understand that to an extent.

So last night, date night. Went to a concert. She loved it. Happiest I've seen her in some time. She was also lovey-dovey. Of course, this got my hopes up. A little romance, you know. After a 75-minute drive home, during which she mostly slept, I drove the babysitter home only to return to find my wife snoring away like a crazy person.

Before I drove the babysitter home, I said to my wife, "You'll be naked when I return." The scoff she gave me pissed me off.

The great thing about being married is that you get to have sex anytime she wants to.

Although frequency is important, the need to feel like she actually still wants to have sex with you and enjoys it is equally important. A scoff like that would sure make me feel like my wife didn't care about me.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

I could be tried as balls and still be up for it.

Same here!

Worst part of all this apparent "being cut off" is, I work public office and frequently the the counter. Which happens to be rather low. We have a a LOT of female Design Professionals (meaning not just Gramma in her night gown) and they are wearing more "summery" outfits. That is to say, the tops are getting lower and lower lately. Even when I am at my desk it is directly across from the counter.

It's almost like they know I am cut off and they lean on the counter JUST TO TORMENT ME!

 

[celestialparsnip]

I mean honestly, it takes what 30 minutes to an hour out of ones "busy" life.

Hang on. How do you last that long?

 

[IrregularPulse]

Hang on. How do you last that long?

Seriously! With the rate I get it, I only need 5-10 minutes, That even with me making a sandwich afterward!

 

[celestialparsnip]

Baloney? I'm fond of Danish salami myself.

 

[GilaMinumBeer]

Hang on. How do you last that long?

Seriously! With the rate I get it, I only need 5-10 minutes, That even with me making a sandwich afterward!

I was being generous. 28 to 58 of those minutes are spent getting her there, the other 2 are mine.

 

[celestialparsnip]

That's more like it. I get quite agitated after several weeks of... nothing. 'Speedy' is my middle name. Or would be if I could get away with it.

 

[AnonyBrew]

lol...well that's a downgrade for me!

maybe i should just shut up then, if others have it worse.

Ha! 3x a week is "sex starved"? Try 3x a year dude.

 

[shecky]

My drought ended last night, but make sure to keep this thread alive. I'm sure I'll be back in a few weeks.

 

[celestialparsnip]

No pics, didn't happen.