Since RIMS moves the liquid, there isn't any need to move the grain. The liquid carries all the heat and distributes it. I've found that any disturbing of the bed via mixing or otherwise just increases the time needed to restabilize the bed and restore wort clarity.
Hammy if you're batch sparging, then you are right that a slow sparging would not do any good. For the first runnings, drain it as fast as the wort will move. It won't make any difference in efficiency. I failed to mention that I perform continuous sparging with my system and I note very significant efficiency gains when sparging slowly versus rapidly. In batch sparging, extending the time before you runoff the second runnings should improve efficiency. But again, the second batch runoff can be as quick as possible.
Thanks for pointing out the effect of sparging method.