Based on reading Palmer's new book with Jamil, I now steep my grains in a seperate pot with much less water. This will allow you to use more varieties of grains, and actually get some starch conversion as well. You want enough water to cover the grains, which are still contained in a sachel. Bring this water to 160 deg(then kill heat), then add you grains. The water should stabilize around 155, and it steeps with a lid on for 40-60 min. This also allows you to simultaniously heat your brewing water, and add your extract while the grains still steep. Then, when the grains are done steeping you can add the mini-mash(without grains) to whatever stage your boil is at. Take the sachel out, put it in your funnel, and hold it over the wort. Then, take some 170ish deg water and pour it over the grains in the funnel. Be careful not to compress them, just let the water draw out the goodness. Excessive squeezing of grains will cause unwanted tannin(bitter) extraction from the grain husks. The mini-mash smells great, too.