Yeah I would go with starting on Pale ales. These should have a good amount of hop pressences and bittering without being overpowering. If you start thinking these are starting to lack then move onto the IPAs
Sorry I haven't had a chance to be on in a while. I tried a few more ipa's and found a few I liked. Grand circus IPA by Atwater was real good. So was pale ale and torpedo by Sierra Nevada. Torpedo is prolly my favorite IPA I've had. I just think I don't like the extreme bitterness I've gotten from other ipa's like hopslam and huma lupa licious. Thanks for your help.
Surly Furious. It is very hoppy, but several of my friends and family that hate IPAs love it. Actually, I haven't run into anyone who doesn't love it. Problem is, unless you live in Minneapolis or within 100 miles you can't get it. You'll have to brew the clone from Midwest Supplies.
My neighbor is a hop head- grows some really nice Cascade hops- we meet regularly in the afternoon during the summer for a beer or three... he always brings high-alcohol, super-hopped beers while I bring malty, 4-6%, session beers... a compromise if you will is: Pyramid Wheaten IPA and Deschutes Red Chair... fantastic ales... IPA-ish without being kicked in the teeth by hop-bitterness-overload...