Can you provide a description of your system topology? If you're fly sparging there's usually a way to control the MLT drain rate and the MLT fill rate, independently at least. I don't quite know how one would pull it off without that ability.
fwiw, I have a 3V2P single tier HERMs and fly sparge with an auto-sparge valve on the MLT. I set a one quart per minute rate using the valve on the output of the pump that is emptying the MLT and filling the BK, and the auto-sparge tracks that rate automagically and keeps the MLT filled to a set level.
Today I did a 10 gallon batch of a 72 point ale and hit the pre-boil gravity and volume dead nuts, but I've been using this system for a couple of years and have gotten it dialed into BeerSmith2 pretty well, so as long as I don't screw up things just come out per plan.
One could do the same without the auto-sparge valve, just need to match flows between the In and Out.
That can be tricky, though, hence the auto-sparge...
Cheers!